OK, we are on the same page with this. I agree with you, but let me state this again because I think many of you believe I am putting this on the single person. I AM NOT! Look at post #87 the majority of the blame goes on the married person. But I just don't find the other person completely innocent. It takes two to tango, and they willingly participated in being with a married person.
However, I think you are right that some want to blame the other person more, which isn't right. My guess is that it is a coping mechanism, easier to blame outside factor for turning world upside down.
So are you saying that you think the PP who said she had advances even while she was pregnant was giving strong vibes off to her supervisor? That is totally unfair to assume that!! I think there are people who perceive strong vibes when there aren't any there ... they perceive being nice as an advance.
On sacrificing own happiness, my thought process was on coworkers who were friends. I think advancing yourself onto a married person could be quite selfish because you aren't valuing the friends personal relationships and what ruing that could ensue. It is just my opinion, and I think we will have to agree to disagree on this.
And I don't watch Suits so I cannot answer to that.