Tess
DIS Veteran - 1997
- Joined
- Aug 19, 1999
My ex made the choice to continue to see the co-worker even after he said he would stop. That sealed the deal for me.
My ex also tried to place the blame on me - I was not paying attention to him, life was boring - she was exciting, whatever.
Anyway, yes it is at least an emotional affair.
ETA: My husband even went to counseling with me and tried to blame me for the marital woes and did not even mention the co-worker.
The question was asked upthread at what point the marriage was over. . .bolded is the answer.
Substitute "friend" for "co-worker" and this was our daughter's situation two years ago. . .the wife of a couple with whom they socialized and her then husband were carrying on an all but (and frankly she believes it was physical as well although he denied it) physical affair behind their spouses' backs. Sexting, commiserating over never having loved their spouses, nothing in common, never happy, yadayadyada. Our daughter was with her now ex for 6 year and married for 2--bimbo and husband married 5 and together for 5 prior.
Now ex agreed to counseling, went once a week for a month and agreed to never see or speak with bimbo again. Guess what--he continued, was found out and blamed our daughter for continuing the contact. He was going to counseling so she would understand what she did wrong and would move on--total head.
Daughter booted her now ex while the bimbo's spouse (at last word) was working out the problems with bimbo. Yeah, she didn't leave him for the now ex. . .in fact, he is not her first conquest and probably not her last, at least according to other friends who were well aware of her proclivities. So yeah, when the individual agrees to stop but doesn't--that is the end.