Lilacs4Me
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- Aug 31, 2015
At this point it sounds like the friend has made the decision to stay with wife, rekindle what they had and avoid co-worker so I don't consider it an emotional affair. I think it could have become one and sounds like it probably would have led to a physical one. I kind of side with your dh, it sounds like friend is seeking attention that he isn't getting from his wife and was drawn to this co-worker, but realizes it's not right.
Now it is up to him whether this goes farther, any intimate contact (and I don't mean physical) between he and this coworker from here on out would definitely be an affair.
That was DH's exact argument - because the guy realized where it could lead and took steps to back away, it's not an emotional affair.
I said it became an emotional affair once the friends dissatisfaction and anger was being directed at the wife who apparently at first didn't know about the coworker and/or when it started affecting his work.