Mackenzie Click-Mickelson
Chugging along the path of life
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- Oct 23, 2015
Thread title sounds so harsh ha. Anyway, my 15 year old son has a very nice TV in his room (he won it in a raffle about a year ago). No problems with it at all, he's a good kid. The other day I came home and the TV was gone and he told me that his grandmother came over with a couple helpers and took it. Apparently hers had stopped working and she remembered he had one so she came to get it. Her reasons she gave him were:
- he doesn't need a TV in his room at his age
- he won it in a raffle so he isn't really out any money
- she can't afford to buy a new one
My son uses the TV a lot (Netflix, gaming, etc.) and was pretty sad about it but didn't want to argue with her because he felt bad. I went over to my mother-in-law's and took it back. I mean, I was perfectly nice about it and all, and I also very clearly told her if she could not afford one, we could talk about helping her out with that, but just taking my son's was not the option.
I guess it bothered me the most that she waited until "the adults" were not home and maybe hoped we wouldn't notice lol.
I felt like if she walked into my living room and made off with my TV it would be wrong, so it was just as wrong that she did it with my son's.
Would you have done the same thing or let Grandma keep the TV? (I debated letting her keep it and buying my son a new one, but that just didn't sit right with me - I wanted her to know what she did was not okay by me)
(And no even though this post feels really long, this really is not taking up a lot of time in my life lol, just was wondering for the sake of discussion.)
I'm still trying to wrap my head around the fact that she entered your home,I'm assuming without your permission, went up to your son's room, also I'm assuming without your permission, and took it upon herself to take something, doesn't matter what, out of your house. Talk about boundary issues and disrespectful.
Two weeks ago my husband needed to mend dress pants and I knew my mom had a sewing kit. Instead of driving to her house, going in and up into her bedroom and taking her sewing kit, I called and asked if I could borrow it and we would arrange where I could get it back to her in a couple of days. She was like "of course, I believe it's still in my bedroom". I knew my mom wouldn't have an issue if I had just come over but I'm still operating on respect here. I wouldn't want her to just show up and get into my house to get x,y,z without my permission and nor would I do that to her. We do the same thing for my husband's mom and step-dad. They don't mind at all if we stop over to borrow x,y,z but we'll always ask first.
I just feel like this is basic learning 101: don't take something that doesn't belong to you and that you don't have permission to take.
ETA: I'm glad you took the TV back and that it wasn't a big huge dramatic moment to get it back either...still leaves me over the whole thing to begin with though.