Would You Have Taken Back The TV from Grandma?

[bgirldeb]

DH should really be the one to go get it back and have a "come to Jesus" conversation with her with her since it's his mother, but since you got it , he needs to have a stern chat with his Mom.

 

[bgirldeb]

I would have drove over and taken the tv back and taken her toaster with me too.

 

[TavieP]

Bad, bad Grandma behavior. Very disappointed in Grandma in this story.

Your son sounds like a decent kid.

 

[design_mom]

Yeah, what Grandma did was wrong on so many levels. It would be *so* out of character for any of my kids' grandparents to do something like that I would have assumed there was more to the story and would have looked for it before confronting grandma. Is she getting sick (dementia)? Did she think she had permission? (Did her son/Dad give permission? Did she ask the son for it, but he didn't realize she intended to take it come for it?) It would just be so completely out of character for our family that I would be investigating.

But I know not all families are like ours, and there's a chance grandma was just being a jerk. In that case, then yeah... you need to confront her.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Yup, she flat out stole it from him! I'd be curious about some of the back story, though. Has she always been a tool? Or was this just from out of left field completely?

 

[SirDuff]

And totally unnecessary. Like hunting a mosquito with a shotgun. The OP handled things in a very straight-forward and dignified way. It's dumb ideas like "call the police"(or even threatening to call them) that start wars in families when simply standing up for yourself in a calm and decisive manner is sufficient.

Given how many bites I got when having dinner outside last night, I'm all for using shotguns!

On topic - most definitely would have taken back the TV (though I couldn't imagine that happening with my grandparents).

 

[CarolAnn856]

In-law issues ARE marital issues.
If there is agreement, then good!
If there is disagreement between a husband and a wife, then yes, wouldn't that be a personal 'marital' issue with them.
Pretty much by definition.

Oh good grief.

 

[mom2rtk]

Oh HELL no. (Meaning to Grandma's behavior). Of course the TV would be coming back.

 

[osopecoso]

Haha. That is so funny. That is like the time my brother in law came over to "borrow" my vitamix blender for a party no one was home since I was traveling and wife was out. He has a key for emergencies. I come back to find out he broke it and cannot afford to buy a new one. At least granny didn't break the tv while moving it.

 

[mnrose]

Is this real? It just seems so ridiculous. OF COURSE she shouldn't have taken it. Wrong on so many levels.

 

[BLAZEY]

You can bet I would have taken my child's TV back. What kind of Grandma STEALS a TV from their grandchild???? MY DH would have been having a chat with his MUM, as he would not have wanted me to do it.

 

[melanielll]

Is this real? It just seems so ridiculous. OF COURSE she shouldn't have taken it. Wrong on so many levels.

Every jerk is the world is part of someone's family. Except for the orphan jerks - which are a small subset of the jerk group.

This kind of stuff happens all of the time in my family. And it is why I have nothing to do with most of them anymore. When my grandmother was in the hospital dying, one of my aunts went to her house and took anything of value that she could easily carry. A thief - but a lazy thief. So - during the funeral, one of my cousins and I went to that aunt's house and stole it all back. We gave it to the responsible aunt - who handed it out according to the will. It's like the white trash version of spy vs. spy.

 

[powellrj]

Is this unusual behavior for her? If so she may need to see a doctor. My mom started doing out of the ordinary things and it was the beginning of dementia.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

In-law issues ARE marital issues.
If there is agreement, then good!
If there is disagreement between a husband and a wife, then yes, wouldn't that be a personal 'marital' issue with them.
Pretty much by definition.

I disagree.

I can certainly have a disagreement with someone in DH's family with no effect on us at all...

It's been happening regularly since January 20

 

[Skywalker]

Sorry guys I am at work so can't really respond till later but thanks for everyone's input on this thread!

Quick version, there is no dementia, and no marital issues. Oh but there is smallish drama a-brewing lol. At least so i heard from my cousin, the head winemaker on the family Grapevine! Ha ha.

 

[Wishing on a star]

So, somebody in your DH's family would come into your home, while you all were away, and steal something, from you or your son, worth some pretty good cash...
And, if he were okay with that... you would not say anything.... there would be no 'effect', no discussion.

Not me.
But, hey, different strokes for different folks!

 

[Wishing on a star]

Good, OP!!!! I see your post come in.
Sounds like you got the TV back, you and your DH are on the same page. All is well!!!

I don't worry too much about 'the grapevine'.

 

[mom2rtk]

I'm just curious. Have you had issues with her sense of entitlement before? This seems like the sort of thing that wouldn't just show up out of the blue.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

So, somebody in your DH's family would come into your home, while you all were away, and steal something, from you or your son, worth some pretty good cash...
And, if he were okay with that... you would not say anything.... there would be no 'effect', no discussion.

Not me.
But, hey, different strokes for different folks!

Where did OP say her husband was okay with it?

 

[soccerdad72]

Good, OP!!!! I see your post come in.
Sounds like you got the TV back, you and your DH are on the same page. All is well!!!

I don't worry too much about 'the grapevine'.

I swear there's days when I feel like I'm reading a different thread than others.

Where did the OP say she got the TV back? I must have re-read her posts 3 or 4 times and it's not mentioned anywhere that I can find.