usarmywife84
Earning My Ears
- Joined
- Jan 6, 2012
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Eh, stay off site. then you can get a condo for far less. Then you could eat in, counter service lunch and a light dinner. Easy peasy. Buy yes tickets and his ticket would be cheap. If you wanted him to go, of course.
So does your husband not care that you are putting his son and business out for the world to read.
Yes, cheermom1, leave my "thinker" at home sometimes, forgetting that people aren't mind readers I think everyone involved should be thankful the OP loves her dss - not every child is so lucky and quit quibbling about things that don't matter. See you are in NW AR - I have family in Huntsville and go to Springdale and Fayetteville often when there!
But you are 100% correct I picked the wrong crowd to throw a "im not taking one child to disney but taking the other" into
Boy is that the truth! Every thread where a parent asks about leaving one or more of the kids home can get pretty opinionated, even when all the kids have the same biological parents and living arrangements.
OP, as long as you and your dh agree, it is nobody else's business. "He who tries to please everybody, pleases nobody". My best to you. You sound like a very nice person and don't deserve the bashing from the "know it all" set. And for you cheermom1, we go to NW AR about once a yr. (1000 mi. ) and where I live and my sis live are a lot alike temp. wise - sometimes colder or hotter there and vice versa Last year y'all had a bummer cold winter - this from a south LA girl. Sorry to hijack your thread OP
$2000 plane tickets? you are being robbed. I fly back and forth across country, and have never paid a third of that.
Guilt? No. But it sure as heck isn't the kid's fault, and that is who you are penalizing for the mom's issues.
As far as how I'd answer my daughter in that situation? I'd say that nothing makes up for not being able to spend every day with his dad. That she is blessed to have a family that is not divided.
You have the opportunity to make a positive or negative impact. You can encourage realationships and make an effort. Or you can do the necessary, stop giving a crap once he turns 18 and you don't have to fool with him anymore.
Wow!! Getting out can be done if one wants to...and could've happened when he learned of his son. My kids dad *my ex* was in the Air Guard and got out, and that wouldn't even take him out of our state, he just had had enough and now has an excellent *civillian/GS 11 or 12* job on the air force base here in UT. I can see now that living close isn't something that's important to him, one night stand *how did she remember him, have his information to find him??!! Wow wow wow!