Afternoon ladies and Capri I love ya and I don't think you did ANYTHING wrong you were just trying to help and I for one appreciate it and think your ideas were good ones.
I just think that sometimes as someone told me, that when you get this many ladies together, or heck just people in general, it is just hard to please everyone.
Everyone has different personalities and people are NEVER going to be able to all agree.
I have been on three different boards since I have found this wonderful thing called the internet and the thing I liked about this one so much was the LACK of drama! I belonged to a babycenter board when I was pg with Shelby and I joined a military wives support board when Shane got deployed to Iraq. Let me tell you with BOTH of those scenarios tensions were high. You get a bunch of hormonal pregnant women and esp ones who have very strong opinions about birthing, breast feeding, co-sleeping and on and on and things can get U-G-L-Y!! Overall we had a great time and really bonded over the births of our children but it never fails that people will NOT agree about everything and emotions get high. Esp when it comes to things like how to raise your children etc.
Then when Shane was deployed I think that was the WORST. Everyone on that board was tense and scared and didn't know WHICH way was up because the one thing we ALL had in common was someone we loved was not only GONE for a year or more (15 months in my particular case) but somewhere where EVERY single night I listened to hear if a car was pulling in my driveway or my door was being knocked on to tell me my husband had been killed.
So compared to THOSE places this place was a breath of fresh air! And let me tell you after having gone through a deployment and seeing one of my friends lose her husband on Christmas day and another lose her 13 year old son to a brain annuerysm WHILE her husband was deployed, I can tell you this stuff seems SO petty!
When I came to these boards I was SO releived because it ALWAYS made me happy and I always left with a smile on my face! NOT everyone gets a disneyaholic like most of us are but I can tell you it is so fun and refreshing to be able to go where everyone is like "me" and we all enjoy the same thing. 99% of the time the posts here are fun and exciting and people are happy because they are planning a trip or just got back and sharing their great time!
When I found this thread I was SO excited because not only had I found a whole group of gals JUST like me but I made some really great friends that I felt I could share my life with as well as my love of Disney.
Sure I come here to talk about the trips and Disney in general but I also feel like I have formed some (hopefully) life long friendships with most of you and I enjoy hearing about your lives and sharing what is going on in mine!
Again I don't know how or why this has happened but I really think that some reflection should be done and some realizations should be made that hey this is a GREAT group of gals and this is something that is supposed to draw us together, not tear us apart.
One of my favorite mottos is judge not lest YE be judged and I think that holds true of this place. None of us should judge anyone for anything that is said or done on these boards or go offline and talk badly about someone because you might not approve of something they said or did because after all we are ALL human and honestly I don't think ANY of us knows everything that is truly going on in everyone else's lives.
While I may not agree or approve of everything people say or do on here I would NEVER judge them for it. If I don't like something that is said I just keep it to myself and think well that's where we are different and leave it at that. WHO am "I" to judge anyone. I don't know what all has lead that person to make the choices that they have made and I refuse to make judgements or talk badly about them because of that.
And another good motto is, if you can't say anything nice, don't say it at all. Sounds a little simple and cliche but hey it works!
So I say let's forget all this nonsense, remember what is REALLY important which is our friendships and move on!