Kathryn Merteuil
Barden Bella
- Joined
- May 11, 2012
Okay, you can tell me to go to heck after this post (or not) and I *may* be confusing you with another poster. My memory on social media isn't great.
Easier said than done but, I'd be done with him now. I could be wrong but a married person sending inappropriate photos (sexting) honestly says to me that more is going on here.
I don't think you and he are all that young (40s, right?) and this isn't a youthful poor judgment thing.
I also vaguely have a sense about others not overly approving of him and wasn't your marriage sort of fast?
Again, I apologize if I've confused you with another poster--that may very well be the case. But if not and these points are correct, there would be too many flags for me.
You’re not confusing her with another poster. A few years ago there were many topics on this relationship where posters here gave some really great advice (that was ignored). This is pretty much exactly what everyone but the OP saw eventually happening.
I counted... he has texted me 51 times today and called once.
Either the story is all too common, or it probably was me. I started dating him about 4 years ago shortly after I got divorced in an absolutely awful marriage. My father told me he wasn't a big fan of him, and he never really said much after that initial conversation. He didn't give me any grief when I told him I was engaged, or when the wedding finally happened. I had another close family member act less than thrilled about this relationship. Yes, I was a bit extreme and obsessive when we first started dating, and we clicked so well. I plastered Facebook with pictures of us and had pictures of us all over my cubicle at work. I have since pretty much stopped doing Facebook just because I kind of got tired of it, too much drama etc... I figure if I am one of those people who looks around a little bit but never says anything, I am better off. I guess I was acting like a teenager at 44. I would get anxiety attacks if he took too long to text me back.
I am 48 years old, and this is my third rodeo. The funny thing is, we get along so well, and we always have. We have never fought, ever. I thought everything was going so well. That is why I am so completely floored by this. I had this perception of how great things were, now I feel foolish. I will admit I have a lot of concern now that this goes deeper than I realize and he is only sorry because he got caught. He told me that his children are all upset because they think I am going to want to get divorced. I guess he is playing all the cards right now. I feel so angry, lonely and trapped all at the same time. I didn't have an "escape route" so to speak. I don't have a backup plan of what I would do if things went bad. I was in this marriage with all the enthusiasm in the world.