Why can't the line be "as many people as I want and am able to give gifts to"?
I don't think anyone's ever looked around and thought "You know, there's just too much kindness and generosity in the world today. Better dial it back..."
I’m all for kindness and generosity. There should be more in the world. I am just wondering why a teacher deserves a tip/gift and not the person who gives you your coffee every morning in the drive thru window.
This is not against any one person, I’m just curious.
if the person who gives me coffee has also nurtured, loved, helped with mental help issues, educated, attended my sporting or music events, and worried about me....I would. If my experience with a teacher/barista/garbage person/stylist was largely negative I wouldn’t. I don’t understand the “where do you draw the line” questions. Give a gift or don’t. Draw the line where you want. It’s never expected.I’m all for kindness and generosity. There should be more in the world. I am just wondering why a teacher deserves a tip/gift and not the person who gives you your coffee every morning in the drive thru window.
This is not against any one person, I’m just curious.
I’m all for kindness and generosity. There should be more in the world. I am just wondering why a teacher deserves a tip/gift and not the person who gives you your coffee every morning in the drive thru window.
This is not against any one person, I’m just curious.
A lot of folks here gift their hairdressers at Christmas, or anyone they regularly get services from. Babysitters and cleaning ladies, too. Most people I know gift teachers, and even collect money for a gift from the class. Maybe it’s a US thing, but I believe it’s the norm.
I think the giving of the gifts to the people that “serve” their lives on a daily basis, like teachers and bus drivers, is a good opportunity for the kids to learn gratitude and appreciation.
I'm a teacher in a low-income district. We do not expect gifts but we greatly appreciate them, especially just notes from the kids. The parents I have who usually give gifts give me things for my classroom like pencils, Kleenex, Clorox wipes, etc.
We are not allowed to accept homemade food items.
Notes from our students are the best!
I’m all for kindness and generosity. There should be more in the world. I am just wondering why a teacher deserves a tip/gift and not the person who gives you your coffee every morning in the drive thru window.
This is not against any one person, I’m just curious.
At Christmas - I don't really remember ever doing so and if I did it certainly never included the bus driver. There were a few special teachers during DS's elementary years that we gave a little something to at the end of the school year. Once or twice I remember a real keen mom taking up a collection for a group gift and we always contributed something when that happened. I sent flowers to DS's grade 12 math teacher after his graduation. The woman pretty much single-handedly dragged him across the finish line and a medal of valor would have been more appropriate than roses.Weird that there’s no ‘no’ option.
This is not a thing in my area.. @ronandannette did you tip everyone when your son was in school?
Teachers are very well compensated here also, as they should be. A gift as a token of appreciation would be just that - not intended to supplement their income.Well, teachers here start at around $45,000 and go up to six figures, plus have pretty decent benefits packages.
This list of books and supplies needed is a great idea. Think how proud the children would be to have gifted a book to the class!My son’s school has prohibited gifts other than homemade notes and hand drawn pictures. There’s a really big income spread and it was a little ridiculous with some kids giving elaborate $75 gift baskets and other kids who weren’t even getting Christmas gifts at home. The school felt like those kids who couldn’t give felt left out and bad that they were unable to gift while some of the bigger gift parents felt somewhat entitled.
Instead they do keep a list of books and school supplies that teachers could use if you would like to make a class donation at any point during the year.
Things are different than they were when I was a kid, mostly because I used to bring my mom's chocolate chip cookies in for class as an expectation lol especially on my birthday and would even get extra credit in french class in high school for that reason (nowadays homemade probably is discouraged if not outright not allowed though I haven't looked up the actual rules for the schools assigned to my house).I’m curious why no one one gifts teachers in your area?
I do agree there are wide variances in teacher's salaries for sure. But I would also say that for some people they may be thinking "gee how underpaid those teachers are" but I don't think everyone does at least not the specific salary a person's child has and their salary. Salaries vary depending on the area in just how they are calculated. My aunt, an elementary teacher who is retiring this year, makes far more than a teacher just starting out but it also depends on one's credentials and degrees. Now maybe the thought process is the average pay is too low regardless of the calculation of the salaries is done but again that could just be a guestimate.One thing I have become of aware of DIS is the wide difference in teacher salaries in our nation. So I can see a monetary gift being more acceptable in areas with below average teacher salaries.
My son’s school has prohibited gifts other than homemade notes and hand drawn pictures. There’s a really big income spread and it was a little ridiculous with some kids giving elaborate $75 gift baskets and other kids who weren’t even getting Christmas gifts at home. The school felt like those kids who couldn’t give felt left out and bad that they were unable to gift while some of the bigger gift parents felt somewhat entitled.
Instead they do keep a list of books and school supplies that teachers could use if you would like to make a class donation at any point during the year.