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Because you know me SO well.jodifla said:I'm not sure you'd recognize it if you saw kids like this.
Because you know me SO well.jodifla said:I'm not sure you'd recognize it if you saw kids like this.
Mouse House Mama said:The only responses any of you gave was to say that PS is basically barbaric, overrun with drugs, sex, gangs, ill behaved children, and poorly qualified teachers. I am afraid for you! I am sure that there are areas where there are huge problems like that and I know of a few but I can tell you that not all schools are like that.
noodleknitter said:No one thinks their schools are like that. But as a school psychologist, that is what I encountered on a daily basis. We live in at city of about 20,000 that thinks it is Mayberry, RFD. A quaint historical city with painted lady homes. Our High School, and the expensive liberal arts college which is listed in the top 100 list, have a huge heroin problem. No one admits it. No one believes it, because there is such a denial issue. The same sex games that are going on in the "big city" are rampant in the Middle School, and a friend says they are now seeing them in the elementary school. Does anyone believe it? No, denial.
As for poorly qualified teachers, well, not eveyone graduates in the top of their class. Many just eek by. And they get the same jobs as the good ones.
As for the cult thought, any group that isn't main stream is called a cult. It is no more cultish, however, than those that blindly follow the mainstream. Independant thought has always sounded good, but no one really ever wants to hear it, let alone consider that someone else's facts are valid.
my4kids said:The debate long ago got away from the original post and the conversation contiues. Why do you feel the conversation needs to be segragated to homeschoolers? Like I was saying...it is like you can't roll with the punches so you need to separate from society. It reminds me of Wizard of Oz - "Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain!" You just want to talk amongst yourselves? Is there no insight in the outside world?
FayeW said:My post was directed to the OP, and to the OP ONLY! I did not imply, nor attempt to imply, that any poster's specific child was odd or that ALL homeschooling parents used homeschooling to justify being SAHMs. The OP asked for opinions, and I gave her mine. If you don't like what I think about homeschooling, that's unfortuntate. At least I didn't sugar coat it or try to pretend that everybody the OP & her children will come in contact with will be supportive of her choice, should she choose to homeschool. I still agree with her DH, that homeschooling may put her children at a disadvantage socially.
I think the bigger question is why so many of you either HS or send your kids to private school. Why do you tolerate such a lousy public school system? Why are you not demanding reform?
FayeW said:I think the bigger question is why so many of you either HS or send your kids to private school. Why do you tolerate such a lousy public school system? Why are you not demanding reform?
I am a non-homeschooler and an educator in PS. I previously posted because having worked with lots of dfferent children I feel I have experience and information that is worthwhile. Don't disregard people because they are choosing to educate their children dofferently than you have. Not everyone is flaming, some have true interest and valid points.momto2girls said:That's my question too. The OP specifically asked a question and directed it to "DIS Homeschoolers". She didn't ask an open question to the entire board. She didn't ask everyone whether they thought that homeschooling would hurt her child's socialization process. She asked DIS Homeschoolers how to convince her husband.
Yet, somehow, lots of non-homeschoolers felt that they needed to jump in to offer their opinions.
I am a non-homeschooler and an educator in PS. I previously posted because having worked with lots of dfferent children I feel I have experience and information that is worthwhile. Don't disregard people because they are choosing to educate their children differently than you have. Not everyone is flaming, some have true interest and valid points.momto2girls said:That's my question too. The OP specifically asked a question and directed it to "DIS Homeschoolers". She didn't ask an open question to the entire board. She didn't ask everyone whether they thought that homeschooling would hurt her child's socialization process. She asked DIS Homeschoolers how to convince her husband.
Yet, somehow, lots of non-homeschoolers felt that they needed to jump in to offer their opinions.
jodifla said:In my high school, waaay back in the '70s, there was apparently a whole lot of cocaine going on. I found out only after I graduated.
So what? I didn't get involved in any of it. I stayed clear of the trouble makers. Because I had good parenting, and some good sense about me, I graduated in the top 1 percent of my class, and I went on to a great state college.
It, too, had a party-hearty reputation. I had a lot of fun there. But I still graduated with great grades, even though I went to quite a few parties. It's just part of life. It doesn't have to suck you in and destroy you.
Maybelle said:Ok, for those of you who are REALLY interested, and not just wanting to bash homeschoolers, I will try to explain some of my family's reasons we decided to homeschool.
First, as I mentioned in a previous post, I have 15 years experience working in public schools in my state as a speech language pathologist, so I do have an advanced degree and teaching experience. I know that has helped me in homeschooling, I won't deny that. I get to see the good and bad of public education on a regular basis, and have seen a great deal of both. Here are some reasons why we homeschool:
+ Homeschooling allows the ability to work at a child's pace; to move through concepts and material quickly, or spend more time on mastery as needed. PS and Priv.S alike are not structured to allow time for true mastery much of the time.
+ Homeschooling allows me to spend more time with my daughter. This is very important to me.
+ Homeschooling allows me to monitor what she is putting into her mind and who she is associating with. *(For those of you ready to flame me for this, please don't take that to mean something it is not...we all want good influences around our children. My DD plays with HS, PS and Priv.S kids.)
+ Studies show the importance in correlation between small class size and increased performance. Ask any PS teacher if their students do better in a class of 15 or a class of 25. The smaller the ratio=the more vested the educator=(in general) better performance.
+ I have a vested interest (see above) in whether or not my daughter succeeds. This is not to say that classroom teachers do not, believe me I work with some GREAT teachers, but admit it, there is a difference.
+ Given the fact that no envoronment is completely safe...I pretty much know that she is not, on a daily basis, going to be bullied, sworn at or worse while trying to learn.
+ I am able to expose my DD to social issues I feel she is ready for, and yes, present them from my faith perspective. We are very open with her about social issues, etc., but we do deal with things from a biblical perspective. Sorry to those who whould like all learning to be from a secular perspective, but schools, whether you like it or not ARE teaching a worldview of secular humanism. While we explain other's perspectives, we present things in light of our beliefs. This is a HUGE factor for us, as it is for many homeschool families.
+ I am a very research oriented person. Studies show homeschoolers, on the whole, score higher on standardized testing than PS students. I do not ever want to limit my daughter in her future endeavors, I will strive to have her reach her full potential for learning so that any avenue she chooses to pursue is open to her.
+ It is much more flexible for scheduling, and along with this, whether you like it or not, there is a great deal of wasted time in any classroom situation simply due to the logistics of the situation.
+ I went through the PS, and did fine, but what I see now is that PS are simply not the same as they were 20 years ago.
+ DD is able to participate in many more "outside of the classroom" experiences that she wouldn't be able to if not homeschooled. We do many more field trips to coincide with her learning, and she is able to be involved in many, varied activities.
+ I know exactly what she is being taught, so we are always actively learning. I can utilize many more "teachable moments" at any point in the day relating to what she is studying, because I know exactly where she is at in the learning process.
+ DD loves being homeschooled. We have a great time together. Although the process is very difficult, at times, We feel that she is getting a great education.
If DD were forced to move into a classroom setting, it would take some adjustment, as our homeschool is much less routinized than a classroom would be, but she would do fine academically, based on what I see in the public school classrooms I work in. She plays with all different kinds of kids, and does well socially with both peers and adults. She is polite and considerate, and generally a pleasure to be around, although, like any kid, she certainly does have her moments
I know this is long, but maybe it will be helpful to someone, and help this thread to get back on track.
momto2girls said:Personally, I think that the public school system is so broken that it will take decades to dig ourselves out. I'm not willing to put my children in such an environment. Besides, we have have the option of homeschooling or private schools, so it's all good.
I guess my question is why do so many of you care what I do with MY children? I honestly couldn't care less what schooling decision you make for your children. If public schools work for you, great! So, why are you so offended when people choose homeschooling or private school for their children? Some of the people on this thread are so incredibly hostile. I swear that none of us are trying to kidnap your children and homeschool them. So, why are you so offended by the notion of us doing something that we feel is right for our families?
Maybelle said:Ok, for those of you who are REALLY interested, and not just wanting to bash homeschoolers, I will try to explain some of my family's reasons we decided to homeschool.
First, as I mentioned in a previous post, I have 15 years experience working in public schools in my state as a speech language pathologist, so I do have an advanced degree and teaching experience. I know that has helped me in homeschooling, I won't deny that. I get to see the good and bad of public education on a regular basis, and have seen a great deal of both. Here are some reasons why we homeschool:
+ Homeschooling allows the ability to work at a child's pace; to move through concepts and material quickly, or spend more time on mastery as needed. PS and Priv.S alike are not structured to allow time for true mastery much of the time.
+ Homeschooling allows me to spend more time with my daughter. This is very important to me.
+ Homeschooling allows me to monitor what she is putting into her mind and who she is associating with. *(For those of you ready to flame me for this, please don't take that to mean something it is not...we all want good influences around our children. My DD plays with HS, PS and Priv.S kids.)
+ Studies show the importance in correlation between small class size and increased performance. Ask any PS teacher if their students do better in a class of 15 or a class of 25. The smaller the ratio=the more vested the educator=(in general) better performance.
+ I have a vested interest (see above) in whether or not my daughter succeeds. This is not to say that classroom teachers do not, believe me I work with some GREAT teachers, but admit it, there is a difference.
+ Given the fact that no envoronment is completely safe...I pretty much know that she is not, on a daily basis, going to be bullied, sworn at or worse while trying to learn.
+ I am able to expose my DD to social issues I feel she is ready for, and yes, present them from my faith perspective. We are very open with her about social issues, etc., but we do deal with things from a biblical perspective. Sorry to those who whould like all learning to be from a secular perspective, but schools, whether you like it or not ARE teaching a worldview of secular humanism. While we explain other's perspectives, we present things in light of our beliefs. This is a HUGE factor for us, as it is for many homeschool families.
+ I am a very research oriented person. Studies show homeschoolers, on the whole, score higher on standardized testing than PS students. I do not ever want to limit my daughter in her future endeavors, I will strive to have her reach her full potential for learning so that any avenue she chooses to pursue is open to her.
+ It is much more flexible for scheduling, and along with this, whether you like it or not, there is a great deal of wasted time in any classroom situation simply due to the logistics of the situation.
+ I went through the PS, and did fine, but what I see now is that PS are simply not the same as they were 20 years ago.
+ DD is able to participate in many more "outside of the classroom" experiences that she wouldn't be able to if not homeschooled. We do many more field trips to coincide with her learning, and she is able to be involved in many, varied activities.
+ I know exactly what she is being taught, so we are always actively learning. I can utilize many more "teachable moments" at any point in the day relating to what she is studying, because I know exactly where she is at in the learning process.
+ DD loves being homeschooled. We have a great time together. Although the process is very difficult, at times, We feel that she is getting a great education.
If DD were forced to move into a classroom setting, it would take some adjustment, as our homeschool is much less routinized than a classroom would be, but she would do fine academically, based on what I see in the public school classrooms I work in. She plays with all different kinds of kids, and does well socially with both peers and adults. She is polite and considerate, and generally a pleasure to be around, although, like any kid, she certainly does have her moments
I know this is long, but maybe it will be helpful to someone, and help this thread to get back on track.
noodleknitter said:Same era here. I don't think that dealing with these issues at these ages are in any way a benefit to a child. I am glad it didn't suck you in , but it sucked my husband in (middle school), it sucked my brother in, and it sucks way too many other kids in now. Kids who should have everything going for them are being sucked in in droves. To say nothing for the poor kids who have nothing going for them.
Avoiding these things are not the only reason we home educate, but they are a factor.
jodifla said:You make many good points. But underlying this all, you are a teacher by experience and trade, and that's going to make a difference. It's not like someone picking up a manual and teaching kids without any background on the educational process or the subject.
So while you may be well qualified to teach, it's not a stretch to think that lots of homeschooling parents whose main desire is to keep their kids from all us secular humanists out there have no business teaching their kids.