Pea-n-Me
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jul 18, 2004
Aww, that is so sad that she was the one who found your dad that way! The poor thing. I hope she can see how much her help must've meant to him, even though he was in a declining state of health. It's admirable that she went to live with him in order to be his caregiver. Truly. Give this to her for me.That’s great. Dd22 has her masters in accounting, passed the first CPA (had a very hard time getting the first one scheduled), has accepted a great job offer but decided to start after she finishes all exams. She has about $80,000 in student loans, totaled 2 cars in a year, became my dad’s caregiver (Alzheimer’s) from May to December (moving out of her apartment and 6 roommates to her childhood town). She was the one who found him face down in the dining room after his heart attack. He passed away.
She now has anxiety being in a house alone. She sort of moved back here, but will stay at my dad’s if ds20 (home on break) or a friend stays with her at night, but will study here or at Starbucks during the day. She grew up in a family of 7, living in the dorms at a huge college for 2 years, lived with 3 roommates the next year, 6 the following year. She drives 45 minutes away almost every night to see her friends who live by her college. She can’t afford to move back there until she starts working (even with s lot of roommates rent is over $500, plus her loans).
She is definitely stressed out.
My DD21 is working in a similar way with my mother, who lives with us (and DD commutes to college). She helps with whatever she needs help with, often cleaning or put groceries away; she helps her shower and takes her to appointments, etc. My mom broke her hip recently and DD has stepped it up, watching her in the hospital after surgery when the opiates made her confused, and coming to care meetings with me at the rehab. This week she actually met with the physical therapist on her own, as I was sick, and yesterday made some signs for Mom's room to communicate some things that needed better consistency with staff. I'm proud of her, and I know Mom is, too. Mom's face lights up when she sees her, but more importantly, I know Mom feels safe when she's there.