So I used to be a frequent poster but now I m a only lurk as I have no fun upcoming vacations coming up. So I have as problem that I would like advice on and don't want to put it out in Facebook land. My mom has a chronic debilitating disease that she has h a d for 30+ years. She has, as of the last 5 years or so, used marijuana to ease her pain. I don't agree but I'm also not her and don't argue or speak to her about it. Full disclosure, I've never tried marijuana. But her life, whatever she feels works for her. We do not live in a legal state. Tonite my daughter who is 11 went over for a sleepover, it was so fragrant in the air that she was going on and on about the door. She is naive right now but will very soon figure out what the smell is and I don't want to explain that it's ok for grandma but not for other people. I want to tell my mom that if the kids will be over to refrain from smoking but she is over the top emotional. My reasoning is her decision making as abilities are not going to be good and my kids need to be safe. But, on the other hand, if she were on pain meds , it may be the same problem so that's probably not a valid argument. I just am looking for opinions, am I over reacting? What would you do? Thanks for reading. By the way, my mom and I are very close but she doesn't respond well to any criticism and cries very easily. I know this is long, thanks again for responding.