Mail Delivery Person Comments on Packages

[cabanafrau]

I see your trying the super max absorbent adult diapers. Do you find they really keep you dry for hours?

Exactly. How can one possibly make that decision without asking someone in the know?

 

[Floridaman999]

I've got an Amazon shipment out for delivery today. I hope I don't get one of those "talkative" or "intrusive" or "don't have any boundaries" delivery people.

 

[DVC-Don]

Over reacting on the OP's part. Move on.

 

[soccerdad72]

I'll anxiously await next week's thread - entitled, "My Cast Member was so rude - didn't even acknowledge me or my kids!"

 

[Lilacs4Me]

LSUmiss said:
I see your trying the super max absorbent adult diapers. Do you find they really keep you dry for hours?


cabanafrau, post: Exactly. How can one possibly make that decision without asking someone in the know?

LOL - this is cracking me up

I love when people at Costco (as one person mentioned) ask about something I'm buying - in those cases, I'm more than happy to oblige! Those cases are huge and it's hard to commit if you've never tried it or don't have a personal recommendation.

But random customers are one thing. The workers/cashiers are another. In my example at the grocery store, it was pretty obvious I was at a certain point of my month lol and the cashier was all like "Looks like you are in for a rough couple of days!" I laugh now, but at the time I was like seriously! Where's the professional decorum! Does she comment on the foot fungus cream that people buy too!?

lol

 

[lifesavacation]

Exactly. How can one possibly make that decision without asking someone in the know?

Isn’t that the one of the best parts of shopping with Amazon? All the user ratings from people in the know?

 

[cabanafrau]

Isn’t that the one of the best parts of shopping with Amazon? All the user ratings from people in the know?

But then the delivery person might comment when dropping off the package.

 

[lifesavacation]

But then the delivery person might comment when dropping off the package.

Maybe. But it’s arriving in a cardboard box so she/he will never know if I’m buying something really cool or adult diapers instead.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

The Fed Ex person who drops off our Chewy order is constantly complaining that it's too heavy (something about being more than 53lbs). While I understand this is at least partially our fault for ordering two different types of dog food, a bag of cat food, and kitty litter, Chewy should put them in two boxes. It kind of makes me feel guilty but I'm not sure how I'm supposed to fix it.

 

[msjprincess]

The Fed Ex person who drops off our Chewy order is constantly complaining that it's too heavy (something about being more than 53lbs). While I understand this is at least partially our fault for ordering two different types of dog food, a bag of cat food, and kitty litter, Chewy should put them in two boxes. It kind of makes me feel guilty but I'm not sure how I'm supposed to fix it.

I hide when I get my Chewy delivery. I know the FEDEX guy is cursing me. LOL

 

[cabanafrau]

Maybe. But it’s arriving in a cardboard box so she/he will never know if I’m buying something really cool or adult diapers instead.

All the more reason for them to inquire.

 

[marthachick]

I’m expecting a delivery today but won’t be home to see if driver complains or not. They generally just put it in the garage without saying anything to us.

 

[pearlieq]

The Fed Ex person who drops off our Chewy order is constantly complaining that it's too heavy (something about being more than 53lbs).

I also have Chewy guilt. Reasonably priced litter that I don't have to haul around is irresistible! Sorry it takes 112 lbs worth to make it to the free shipping, but them's the breaks!

 

[FairestOfThemAll37]

The Fed Ex person who drops off our Chewy order is constantly complaining that it's too heavy (something about being more than 53lbs). While I understand this is at least partially our fault for ordering two different types of dog food, a bag of cat food, and kitty litter, Chewy should put them in two boxes. It kind of makes me feel guilty but I'm not sure how I'm supposed to fix it.

I hide when I get my Chewy delivery. I know the FEDEX guy is cursing me. LOL

I also have Chewy guilt. Reasonably priced litter that I don't have to haul around is irresistible! Sorry it takes 112 lbs worth to make it to the free shipping, but them's the breaks!

Haha omg, I love Chewy, seriously, best customer service I’ve ever encountered. But I thought I was the only one. I’m always running half-way to the truck apologizing for how heavy the box is! I feel so bad, but it’s so convenient!

 

[Wishing on a star]

My take:
While the OP might be over-sensitive... I do feel that any personal observations and comments are just simply not appropriate.
Just do your flipping job... Be friendly... as in "Nice day!!!"
Un-wanted and non-requested observations and judgements are just not okay.

In the OP's case, this person didn't just make a friendly off-hand comment "you're keeping my busy lately !!! "
But made a totally unnecessary and personal observation/judgement, and even involved the OP's husband.

Just IMHO (and, of course, I don't really care if you like my opinion or not... I didn't ask)
In this case, I think the OP has a point.

 

[nkereina]

I'm actually surprised the mail person would even take notice or comment, with the amount of packages they likely have to deliver on a daily basis thanks to the popularity of online shopping. Its so commonplace now.

Personally, I would just take any remarks with a grain of salt and move on with my day. Instead of a laugh or playful comment back, just don't respond to it and thank her for the mail if you have to interact. If she senses you're being stand-offish when those comments are made, maybe she'll stop. And if she doesn't stop, then it is what it is. I think a letter to explain you don't like the comments would be over-reacting, passive aggressive, awkward, and weird.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

I'm actually surprised the mail person would even take notice or comment, with the amount of packages they likely have to deliver on a daily basis thanks to the popularity of online shopping. Its so commonplace now.

Grocery delivery is common too and there is a house in the cul-de-sac next to mine that gets delivery a lot. I'm not judging them nor do I care that they actually get consistent grocery delivery but that doesn't mean I don't notice it.

I think in the context here we have a small community, a regular mail person and a person who is ordering 3 to 4 times per week. It's not out of the realm of possibility for someone to notice, even with no ill will or rude intent meant, consistent packages being delivered to X person's house.

 

[Lilacs4Me]

Grocery delivery is common too and there is a house in the cul-de-sac next to mine that gets delivery a lot. I'm not judging them nor do I care that they actually get consistent grocery delivery but that doesn't mean I don't notice it.

I think in the context here we have a small community, a regular mail person and a person who is ordering 3 to 4 times per week. It's not out of the realm of possibility for someone to notice, even with no ill will or rude intent meant, consistent packages being delivered to X person's house.

Not really directed at you, just in general, but your post did bring up a good point.

I think the difference, and this thread per usual SOP for the Community Board, got away from, is that when a "lay-person" asks/starts a conversation/comments on something, it's fine. Maybe annoying to some, but fine.

I expect more from someone in a professional realm - like my example of my mailman who is also DS's friends dad - I would expect him to ask how DS is, or how crazy it is that the boys are in college now, or can you believe the cost of tuition these days, or along those lines, as a FRIEND. Thinking back to the boys' Junior year, I recall even having a conversation with him one day about the number of college fliers and postcards that we were both getting! And he even joked that the amount of college mail he was delivering these days to all of our kids in town was giving him job security. lol

But... as my mailman, I would think he crossed a line if he were to comment on my late water bill notice or how many envelopes I've been getting from hospitals/doctors lately, or, how many packages I get on a daily basis. There's a line of perceived privacy that separates common-folk small talk, and professional non-committal detachment.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Not really directed at you, just in general, but your post did bring up a good point.

I think the difference, and this thread per usual SOP for the Community Board, got away from, is that when a "lay-person" asks/starts a conversation/comments on something, it's fine. Maybe annoying to some, but fine.

I expect more from someone in a professional realm - like my example of my mailman who is also DS's friends dad - I would expect him to ask how DS is, or how crazy it is that the boys are in college now, or can you believe the cost of tuition these days, or along those lines, as a FRIEND. Thinking back to the boys' Junior year, I recall even having a conversation with him one day about the number of college fliers and postcards that we were both getting! And he even joked that the amount of college mail he was delivering these days to all of our kids in town was giving him job security. lol

But... as my mailman, I would think he crossed a line if he were to comment on my late water bill notice or how many envelopes I've been getting from hospitals/doctors lately, or, how many packages I get on a daily basis. There's a line of perceived privacy that separates common-folk small talk, and professional non-committal detachment.

I get what you're saying though I do feel a bit differently. My comment was because the other poster said they were surprised the mail person took notice to the consistency in packages being delivered. I don't honestly find that surprising. I,as a neighbor, notice that the house in the cul-de-sac near me gets a lot of deliveries from a local grocery store but I wouldn't expect a mail person in my area to notice because we have cluster mailboxes with no consistent assigned mail person. Also nowadays a lot of Amazon packages are delivered in our area by Amazon Logistics. BUT I can understand how in a small community that has a regular mail person that the mail person would notice that it's a typical habit to be delivering packages to a specific person.

I would agree if the mail person was asking "so what do you order that you get so many packages" or something similar that would be an invasion of privacy. My gut reaction to the OP's situation is a commonality in the form of chit-chat not that they were invading the OP's privacy and not that they were trying to be judgy but that's just my gut reaction.

If you were to ask me though I don't think the situation as described the OP as an invasion of privacy. The OP is interpreting this as the mail person being judgemental. The OP brings up ceramic dolls bought from QVC as if that should be cause for embarassment (and I mean that in a respectful way). The OP feels like she needs to provide explanations for exactly what she's been ordering (clothes, things for the home, halloween costumes, lids for frying pans, etc) all of which it hasn't been clear if there has ever been a need for such rationales for purchasing things online. If the mail person point blank asked the OP "what's in this box, what's in that box, etc" that would come off, even in a friendly manner, as over the lines but my first defense if the mail person were to say that would not be to defend my actions by explaining just what type of stuff I've been ordering. I would just say "this and that" and leave it as that. I actually do sorta agree with posters who have brought up maybe this is something more an issue with the OP feels about things (i.e. insecurity) though I'm not meaning that in an insensitive way.

This is just me personally but we're talking about non-descript Amazon Prime packages. We're not talking about possible sensitive medical bills and we're not talking about late water bill notices. I'm not there at the OP's place to hear tone and inflection and body language but if all things considered with a friendly manner I would just take it as chit chat and not as something worse. Maybe what makes the OP so uncomfortable is the small town aspect IDK.

I do understand that you were generally speaking as opposed to this specific point of the thread but my feelings on the specific point to this thread blend into my overall feels of the type of situation we're talking about (mail person commenting on mail being delivered).

 

[morgan98]

I get what you're saying though I do feel a bit differently. My comment was because the other poster said they were surprised the mail person took notice to the consistency in packages being delivered. I don't honestly find that surprising. I,as a neighbor, notice that the house in the cul-de-sac near me gets a lot of deliveries from a local grocery store but I wouldn't expect a mail person in my area to notice because we have cluster mailboxes with no consistent assigned mail person. Also nowadays a lot of Amazon packages are delivered in our area by Amazon Logistics. BUT I can understand how in a small community that has a regular mail person that the mail person would notice that it's a typical habit to be delivering packages to a specific person.

I would agree if the mail person was asking "so what do you order that you get so many packages" or something similar that would be an invasion of privacy. My gut reaction to the OP's situation is a commonality in the form of chit-chat not that they were invading the OP's privacy and not that they were trying to be judgy but that's just my gut reaction.

If you were to ask me though I don't think the situation as described the OP as an invasion of privacy. The OP is interpreting this as the mail person being judgemental. The OP brings up ceramic dolls bought from QVC as if that should be cause for embarassment (and I mean that in a respectful way). The OP feels like she needs to provide explanations for exactly what she's been ordering (clothes, things for the home, halloween costumes, lids for frying pans, etc) all of which it hasn't been clear if there has ever been a need for such rationales for purchasing things online. If the mail person point blank asked the OP "what's in this box, what's in that box, etc" that would come off, even in a friendly manner, as over the lines but my first defense if the mail person were to say that would not be to defend my actions by explaining just what type of stuff I've been ordering. I would just say "this and that" and leave it as that. I actually do sorta agree with posters who have brought up maybe this is something more an issue with the OP feels about things (i.e. insecurity) though I'm not meaning that in an insensitive way.

This is just me personally but we're talking about non-descript Amazon Prime packages. We're not talking about possible sensitive medical bills and we're not talking about late water bill notices. I'm not there at the OP's place to hear tone and inflection and body language but if all things considered with a friendly manner I would just take it as chit chat and not as something worse. Maybe what makes the OP so uncomfortable is the small town aspect IDK.

I do understand that you were generally speaking as opposed to this specific point of the thread but my feelings on the specific point to this thread blend into my overall feels of the type of situation we're talking about (mail person commenting on mail being delivered).

Do you think it was okay for the mail person to discuss the packages with the husband? That is where I think it crosses the line. The OP and her husband are not one entity so I would say it is more than just chit chat to discuss the wife's purchasing habits with the husband, completely unsolicited.