cabanafrau
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I see your trying the super max absorbent adult diapers. Do you find they really keep you dry for hours?
Exactly. How can one possibly make that decision without asking someone in the know?
I see your trying the super max absorbent adult diapers. Do you find they really keep you dry for hours?
Exactly. How can one possibly make that decision without asking someone in the know?
Isn’t that the one of the best parts of shopping with Amazon? All the user ratings from people in the know?
But then the delivery person might comment when dropping off the package.
I hide when I get my Chewy delivery. I know the FEDEX guy is cursing me. LOLThe Fed Ex person who drops off our Chewy order is constantly complaining that it's too heavy (something about being more than 53lbs). While I understand this is at least partially our fault for ordering two different types of dog food, a bag of cat food, and kitty litter, Chewy should put them in two boxes. It kind of makes me feel guilty but I'm not sure how I'm supposed to fix it.
Maybe. But it’s arriving in a cardboard box so she/he will never know if I’m buying something really cool or adult diapers instead.
The Fed Ex person who drops off our Chewy order is constantly complaining that it's too heavy (something about being more than 53lbs).
The Fed Ex person who drops off our Chewy order is constantly complaining that it's too heavy (something about being more than 53lbs). While I understand this is at least partially our fault for ordering two different types of dog food, a bag of cat food, and kitty litter, Chewy should put them in two boxes. It kind of makes me feel guilty but I'm not sure how I'm supposed to fix it.
I hide when I get my Chewy delivery. I know the FEDEX guy is cursing me. LOL
I also have Chewy guilt. Reasonably priced litter that I don't have to haul around is irresistible! Sorry it takes 112 lbs worth to make it to the free shipping, but them's the breaks!
Grocery delivery is common too and there is a house in the cul-de-sac next to mine that gets delivery a lot. I'm not judging them nor do I care that they actually get consistent grocery delivery but that doesn't mean I don't notice it.I'm actually surprised the mail person would even take notice or comment, with the amount of packages they likely have to deliver on a daily basis thanks to the popularity of online shopping. Its so commonplace now.
Grocery delivery is common too and there is a house in the cul-de-sac next to mine that gets delivery a lot. I'm not judging them nor do I care that they actually get consistent grocery delivery but that doesn't mean I don't notice it.
I think in the context here we have a small community, a regular mail person and a person who is ordering 3 to 4 times per week. It's not out of the realm of possibility for someone to notice, even with no ill will or rude intent meant, consistent packages being delivered to X person's house.
I get what you're saying though I do feel a bit differently. My comment was because the other poster said they were surprised the mail person took notice to the consistency in packages being delivered. I don't honestly find that surprising. I,as a neighbor, notice that the house in the cul-de-sac near me gets a lot of deliveries from a local grocery store but I wouldn't expect a mail person in my area to notice because we have cluster mailboxes with no consistent assigned mail person. Also nowadays a lot of Amazon packages are delivered in our area by Amazon Logistics. BUT I can understand how in a small community that has a regular mail person that the mail person would notice that it's a typical habit to be delivering packages to a specific person.Not really directed at you, just in general, but your post did bring up a good point.
I think the difference, and this thread per usual SOP for the Community Board, got away from, is that when a "lay-person" asks/starts a conversation/comments on something, it's fine. Maybe annoying to some, but fine.
I expect more from someone in a professional realm - like my example of my mailman who is also DS's friends dad - I would expect him to ask how DS is, or how crazy it is that the boys are in college now, or can you believe the cost of tuition these days, or along those lines, as a FRIEND. Thinking back to the boys' Junior year, I recall even having a conversation with him one day about the number of college fliers and postcards that we were both getting! And he even joked that the amount of college mail he was delivering these days to all of our kids in town was giving him job security. lol
But... as my mailman, I would think he crossed a line if he were to comment on my late water bill notice or how many envelopes I've been getting from hospitals/doctors lately, or, how many packages I get on a daily basis. There's a line of perceived privacy that separates common-folk small talk, and professional non-committal detachment.
I get what you're saying though I do feel a bit differently. My comment was because the other poster said they were surprised the mail person took notice to the consistency in packages being delivered. I don't honestly find that surprising. I,as a neighbor, notice that the house in the cul-de-sac near me gets a lot of deliveries from a local grocery store but I wouldn't expect a mail person in my area to notice because we have cluster mailboxes with no consistent assigned mail person. Also nowadays a lot of Amazon packages are delivered in our area by Amazon Logistics. BUT I can understand how in a small community that has a regular mail person that the mail person would notice that it's a typical habit to be delivering packages to a specific person.
I would agree if the mail person was asking "so what do you order that you get so many packages" or something similar that would be an invasion of privacy. My gut reaction to the OP's situation is a commonality in the form of chit-chat not that they were invading the OP's privacy and not that they were trying to be judgy but that's just my gut reaction.
If you were to ask me though I don't think the situation as described the OP as an invasion of privacy. The OP is interpreting this as the mail person being judgemental. The OP brings up ceramic dolls bought from QVC as if that should be cause for embarassment (and I mean that in a respectful way). The OP feels like she needs to provide explanations for exactly what she's been ordering (clothes, things for the home, halloween costumes, lids for frying pans, etc) all of which it hasn't been clear if there has ever been a need for such rationales for purchasing things online. If the mail person point blank asked the OP "what's in this box, what's in that box, etc" that would come off, even in a friendly manner, as over the lines but my first defense if the mail person were to say that would not be to defend my actions by explaining just what type of stuff I've been ordering. I would just say "this and that" and leave it as that. I actually do sorta agree with posters who have brought up maybe this is something more an issue with the OP feels about things (i.e. insecurity) though I'm not meaning that in an insensitive way.
This is just me personally but we're talking about non-descript Amazon Prime packages. We're not talking about possible sensitive medical bills and we're not talking about late water bill notices. I'm not there at the OP's place to hear tone and inflection and body language but if all things considered with a friendly manner I would just take it as chit chat and not as something worse. Maybe what makes the OP so uncomfortable is the small town aspect IDK.
I do understand that you were generally speaking as opposed to this specific point of the thread but my feelings on the specific point to this thread blend into my overall feels of the type of situation we're talking about (mail person commenting on mail being delivered).