I live in upstate NY and high school grad gifts are 50-100
That a teen even would have $100 bucks to give a friend for sweet 16 is also incredible to me, but I live in a much less expensive part of the country in all things.
I think you are fine with 100.
Some people in Jersey do, my family does.
The Northeast, not North.Born in NJ but live in SC for a long time...weddings are still very different between regions...up North - registry gifts are more for showers and wedding gifts are cash. But to answer the question - if you go to the wedding - I would try and give enough to cover the cost of the reception - if not attending then I would do $50.
TrueThe Northeast, not North.
I am always amazed by the NY/NJ wedding stories, and also by the 'cover the plate' recommendations.
Lol. They don’t just hand over money. It stills goes in a card. Because we don’t give gifts there isn’t a need for a gift table.Me too georgina! I got to the NY metro area during HS and my family weddings were never like that at all, so it was all new to me. And we were the first of our college friends to get married, so I really had no idea about it all. When DH said that we would be expected to walk around during the reception with a little silk bag to collect checks and cash in, I said no way am I doing that! It just sounded so rude and tacky to me. He said that otherwise, how would his family give us the money? I said, in a card, on the gift table, like at all normal weddings. He said that is not how it's done here. So we did go around, but only on his side of the reception, because my side would have had no idea what we were doing! We laugh about it now. It's like I married into the mob or something!
It’s not a NY thing, it’s a NYC metro area thing, so it depends where you are in NY.I live in NY and I'd still give $100 to a couple who are basically strangers.
I dont follow the herd, I don't care that "it's NY" for me giving a gift to someone isn't about where I am located geographically or where the couple lives, it's about my relationship with them.
And if they think it's wrong, and word gets around to other "family" and they don't invite me to their weddings, well all the better.
It’s not a NY thing, it’s a NYC metro area thing, so it depends where you are in NY.