Wow -- I wasn't trying to be judgemental -- That is why I said I didn't know because I never breast fed -- I just thought that was the purpose of the pumps -- so you could pump your own breastmilk to feed your child in this type of situation.
I guess my peeve is people with chips on their shoulder.
My apologies I didn't mean to get defensive it is those little icons the little cheeky whistling face to me indicated that you knew that the comment would be a little bit controversial when you asked it. I am sorry if I misconstrued the icon. I shall answer the question.
It can take forever to express enough for a bottle, a baby is so much more effect at getting what they need out. So in order for me to get a bottles worth it could take 2-3 days. I would do that if on the rare occassion I needed to go out without the baby.
I don't have a chip on my shoulder either. Nobody has ever made a comment to me with regards to my feeding my child, I have never been asked to move to a toilet to feed them etc. I guess it annoys me that something so simple as feeding my child can bother so many people. Once again apologies if I came across as a grump.
But, no one ever suggested that you nurse your baby in the baby care station. She asked about pumping and I thought it was a good question (answered quite nicely by the next poster). Earlier, I asked about a bench. There are all over the place, not like you have to hike to the other side of the park or something.
Why do these question always have to come to someone saying "why should I have to . . . " Nurse your baby where ever you darn well please. Don't use anything to cover up with if you don't want to. But when people walk by and stare or say something about you not being discreet--don't get up in the air about that either. I have seen mother's nurse that no one could even tell what was going on--what is so wrong with that? But, by all means do whatever you feel is appropriate for you and your baby.
As for the yelling, it really is not the greatest thing (although, you are correct you are not "ruining" your children). Children that are yelled at will begin to yell themselves. I had a employee at my child care center that had a habit of raising her voice. Her classroom was the loudest because of that. The louder she got, the louder her kids got and visa versa. I took her aside and told her that she couldn't raise her voice to the kids. I then let her observe my own classroom. She saw a definite difference in the noise level and toned it down a lot. If they don't start yelling or even if they do, they will many times stop listening any time you are not yelling. Additionally, for some children, yelling at them can hurt their self esteem (I am not talking about the "hey, stop that!" type of yelling her, but more of the "how could you have done that?" and lecturing type of yelling). That's not my opinion, its what I have observed and what I have learned in early childhood development.
Maybe people wouldn't seem so judgmental if one tried not to be so defensive.
I realise nobody suggested that we hike all the way over to the baby care centre to feed our children, I was using it as an example to the people who want to know when feeding why can't we go somewhere where we can't be seen. A baby needs to be fed, if you can sit down anywhere and pull out a bottle, why can the same not be said for nursing? Mothers that use bottles would be up in arms if they were told sorry, you need to do that in a baby care area. Again I realise that you never said we couldn't but it has been mentioned before so I was using it as an example.
Thank you for not caring how we feed our children, I don't cover up but I try to be as discreet as possible, alot of people wouldn't know I was feeding. But that said babies go through the stage where they are popping on an off and while I try hard to move my shirt in time with them so that no one catches a glimpse of something they would rather not see sometimes I might not make it.
Pot, please meet kettle.
And I would not care to catch a glimspe of your breast, I do not care what you are doing with it.
I am sure you would not. And I will try my hardest, see above post, to ensure that doesn't happen. But my hardest does not include, walking to a babycare station, sitting in a toilet, etc.
and I am not quite sure on the Pot kettle statement, I never judged anyone, I realise people don't like people nursing, I don't pretend to understand why but that is your prerogative.
You should've stuck with your original plan of not posting. Seriously, there is no need to get all defensive. It was a simple question, qualified by a "I've never nursed" statement. Ease up lady! Seems like YOU are the one with the issue!!!
Yeah maybe I should have just left it but as I have explained above it is those little icons that do it I couldn't resist. I am defensive because some of these statements might put some women off nursing. If you don't want to breastfed because you are scared someone might tell you off I find that incredibly sad.
I apologise once again if I offended anyone with my post.
Kirsten