mi*vida*loca
Collect memories, not things
- Joined
- Mar 29, 2008
Paying anything for adult children is very foreign in my family. Once you decide to move out and be a grown up you are a grown up. You need to get your own cell phone bill, own car insurance, own bank account, etc. That's just how my family has always operated.
With that said my son is 19, lives at home and goes to college. We pay for all of his vacations and a souvenir or two. Since he does work part time he does buy any extras he wants and clothes for vacation. If he decided today to move out and was still in college I would still pay for him to come on our vacations. I just don't see him as a full fledged adult yet, he doesn't have the funds to pay for vacation and he's still a college student. And I still want to come with us so if I want him there I have to pay. I'm guessing it'll stop once he graduates and has a full time adult job. I have brought up the idea of one day doing big family trips when my kids have their own families but who knows how that'll work out in the long run. Will I pay, will they pay for their family, will I pay a big portion, etc??
All of my friends stopped or will stop paying for their kids vacations once they graduate college. If it's a trip they really want them to go on they pay or they pay a big portion of the trip. One friend is taking the kids and grandkids to WDW and is paying for everyone. One friend has a DS who is 22, lives at home, not in college, works full time and they give him the option to vacation with them but he has to pay for his own portion. They front the money and then he pays them back. While on vacation they pay for most dinners also but he pays for his flight and hotel.
With that said my son is 19, lives at home and goes to college. We pay for all of his vacations and a souvenir or two. Since he does work part time he does buy any extras he wants and clothes for vacation. If he decided today to move out and was still in college I would still pay for him to come on our vacations. I just don't see him as a full fledged adult yet, he doesn't have the funds to pay for vacation and he's still a college student. And I still want to come with us so if I want him there I have to pay. I'm guessing it'll stop once he graduates and has a full time adult job. I have brought up the idea of one day doing big family trips when my kids have their own families but who knows how that'll work out in the long run. Will I pay, will they pay for their family, will I pay a big portion, etc??
All of my friends stopped or will stop paying for their kids vacations once they graduate college. If it's a trip they really want them to go on they pay or they pay a big portion of the trip. One friend is taking the kids and grandkids to WDW and is paying for everyone. One friend has a DS who is 22, lives at home, not in college, works full time and they give him the option to vacation with them but he has to pay for his own portion. They front the money and then he pays them back. While on vacation they pay for most dinners also but he pays for his flight and hotel.