FrozenOne16
Mouseketeer
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- Jun 12, 2014
Our Adventure Book: Planning Our Up Wedding!
Welcome to my planning journal for our Up Wedding!!!! Rather than introducing the characters, I would like to put our story here. So that is what I will do! (I will edit this post to include more info as it comes!)
Our Story
Our Story
I have always been a shy kind of person when it comes to the opposite sex. My best friend introduced me to the site called okcupid, and it helped me come out of my shell a little bit. On July 22, 2011, I got a message from a guy that I wouldnt normally go for. And after that, we pretty much hit it off.
Now, because I am so shy, I refused to meet him. I didnt think I knew enough about him. In January 2012, I got in a really bad car accident and I talked to Chase a lot. Then, in May 2012, I found out that I had to have emergency gall bladder surgery, and a week later we found out that my mom had breast cancer. So, meeting Chase kept being put off.
My mom went through chemo from June-September and had a double mastectomy in October, 2 days before her birthday. The doctor said everything went great, and my mom was diagnosed cancer free. So, throughout this journey with my mom, I decided that I needed to meet Chase and live life to the fullest. I couldnt keep putting it off. We met on Halloween 2012 at a local restaurant that was neutral to both of us.
We had a few more dates after that, and talking to Chase just became a natural thing for me. On December 14, 2013, Chase asked me to officially be his girlfriend. How official? Facebook Official! LOL. We went on our first vacation in March 2013, and it was amazing. We had so much fun together.
Around July or August of 2013, my mom started to have some issues and needed fluid drained off of her lungs. Turns out, her cancer had returned in the form of cells in the fluid in her lungs. This was a hard pill to swallow and I was finding myself torn between Chase and caring for my mom. Luckily, Chase is an amazing man, and was by mine and my moms side for the best and the worst. (I think this is when he won my mom and my entire family over).
During this time, we started planning a trip for the 3 of us to Disney for January 2014. My mom was super excited, and so was Chase, since it was his first visit to Disney World. However, mom got more bad news; she was going to have to have a catheter put in so that we could drain her fluid every day. She was extremely worried that she would not recover in time to go to Disney.
Now, things that I did not know about were happening at the time. Chase had apparently been planning a huge surprise for me while we were at Disney. And, he had included my mom. Just knowing that this happened, makes me so happy.
So, my mom recovered and we went to Disney, and this is where Chase proposed to me. Yup, right in front of Cinderella Castle in Magic Kingdom. Apparently, Chase had asked both of my parents if he could marry me, and my mom helped him set the whole thing up.
Well, when we got home, my mom wound up in the hospital less than a week from our return. She was admitted for nausea, headache, and being out of breath. When you have cancerous cells in the fluid in your lungs, this is extremely dangerous. Well, my mom was stable over the weekend, her vitals were good, and they wanted to do a PET scan on that Monday. So, they did that, and the results came back the same as they had been. My mom and I were playing UNO and I never left her side. I refused to.
When she came back from the PET scan, her vitals began to drop and she wasnt getting enough oxygen, so they moved her to the lung floor. Then, the next day, her vitals continued to drop, and she was moved to the ICU. This was the last day that I saw my mom conscious. And it absolutely broke my heart.
My mom was in the ICU for a week before her oncologist finally told me what was going on. Apparently, the cancerous cells that were in her lungs had spread to her bones. And she never told anyone. And this type of cancer was terminal. They couldnt treat it, she would just be high on pain meds and miserable. So we as a family had to make a decision. We chose to let my mom make her own decision. She was on an oscillator, and we chose to move her back to the ventilator.
Before we moved her off of the oscillator, Chase and I decided to get married. It was January 30, 2014 around 3:30. His parents were there and my dad was as well. My uncle, brother and cousin were also there. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. My mom then held on until 1AM on February 1st. She passed peacefully, with nothing hooked up to her.
Now, this has been one of the hardest times of my life. My mom was my rock. I loved her with everything I have and this was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I was in charge of planning the funeral and there were some family arguments that happened between me and my grandparents. But thats a different story for a different day. I also lost my job during this time. Basically, if I wouldnt have had Chase by my side, I honestly dont think I would have made it.
So now, we have decided to have a renewal of our vows with a full wedding ceremony and reception on January 30, 2015. I am so excited for this day. But it is so hard planning without my mom with me. But I am doing it, and I want to share it with some readers. I hope that if you are going through anything like I have went through, that I can somehow help you. Look towards the future. Remember the good times and the amazing memories.
I hope yall enjoy this! I am looking forward to writing it! Up next: We made our own Adventure Book!!!!
