rt2dz
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- Oct 26, 2004
I bolded. Look, my kids help out at home also. We are a family and we work together. I would venture to guess that most families are the same way. The issue -for me anyway- is that it is more than just household chores or the watching a sibling while Mommy showers stuff. The "buddy" assumes most of the care for the child. That "buddy" is a child. Not a Nanny or Babysitter or hired help if you will. I feel sad that a child has to have so much responsibility. That I think is pretty much what I mean by it.
That is your OPINION. That is my whole point. You don't know if that is true 24/7. Yes, they schedule in alone time with the kids. What a great idea! I have three and I don't think my middle one has ever gotten alone time with me once I had #3--only a little over a year later. There is always a sibling with him. My older one, being 3 years older, has more needs with homework and activities. My youngest is still only 2 years old and is quite the pistol. My youngest only has me alone when the other two are in school at the same time.
I never meant to imply that you, or anyone, do not have your children help out at home. But really, my best friend in high school did her entire families laundry. She was her mom's only child (her biological dad decided if her mother wouldn't be married to him then he wanted nothing to do with her), so it was only 3 people (her, her mom, and her step dad), but she still did all the laundry without help. She also cooked dinner 5 nights a week because her parents did not get home from work until closer to 7 PM. She also vacuumed the entire house every day and cleaned the kitchen every day. If we wanted to do something, I went over there and helped her. It had been that way since she was 10. Same thing. I wouldn't call her parents rotten parents. They were there when it counted. My mother also had a friend growing up like that. Being responsible for the house is hardly child abuse, or a new theory.
Look, I have 7yo in first grade. He is responsible for getting himself up in the morning and making his own breakfast. He then dresses himself and brushes his own teeth. Even my 4yo picks out his own clothes and dresses himself. My two year old pretty much dresses himself, still needs some help. Most kids are sleeping through the night at 1, if not sooner. How long do you really think these kids are handling these tasks? How long do any of these tasks even take? In our family, it's about 20-30 minutes. What a horribly enslaved day!
We are obviously going to have to agree to disagree. I just think it is sickening that people who have never had any real contact with someone would be that judgmental. Especially when they are handling their situation well. Yes, they are probably making money by allowing someone to chronicle their lives on TV, but is that a crime? It beats the heck out having to work the graveyard shift at some gas station. Who cares how they pay their bills as long as it is legal and their bills are paid by them.