Cosi Bella
Mouseketeer
- Joined
- Mar 26, 2008
I really could use some advice!
My fiance's brother got married in Disney World almost three years ago, and as most of you probably know, the wedding was so beautiful and so much fun! The family still talks about various things we did during that week. Six months prior to their wedding, and before I started dating my fiance, I went to Disney World for the first time and fell in love! Everything was so magical and wonderful. I wanted to live and breathe Disney after that; I wanted to get married there, I wanted to honeymoon there, I wanted to go for the Holiday season to see it decorated...
You can see how ironic it was that I met my fiance and then went to his brothers wedding in Disney. It was amazing and it made me want to get married there even more. And then I thought to myself, "With my luck I'll marry him, and we wont be able to get married in Disney World because his brother did it first."
Well, here we are... engaged, and all I can think about is having my own Disney Wedding. Here's where the problem comes in. My fiance casually mentioned that we were thinking about doing our own wedding in Disney, and his mother didn't seem too excited, as his side of the family has been there many times, and has already done a Disney wedding. Her response was "That has already been done. You guys should do something else." His brother replied with "That's not really your thing"
We are planning on sitting down with his parents very soon to discuss this because this has been my dream for a while now, and I want them to know how important it would be to me, to be able to have a wedding in Disney World too. But a huge part of me feels awkward to be "copying them" I wish that his brother had embraced the idea from the beginning, but he didn't and I think that's where part of my reservations are coming from. I don't want to make him or his wife feel bad that we are taking their idea, and making their day any less special...
With that being said, my entire family has been pushing me to do what I want. They say it is my wedding, and I should do what makes me happy...they had their day, and now its my day and it wont take away from their experience at all. I agree with that, but I can't shake this feeling that makes me feel weird and uncomfortable because his brother already did it, and it was something really new and unique and special for them. I dont want to take that away from them...
Am I just being silly feeling this way? I've read other threads from people with similar problems, and everyones advice is we'll just regret it for the rest of our lives if we do something we don't really want to. but how can I get what I want, and not hurt their feelings too? I am really upset because I am supposed to be happy and excited to plan my wedding, and i feel neither of those things. You're advice is really truly appreciated!
My fiance's brother got married in Disney World almost three years ago, and as most of you probably know, the wedding was so beautiful and so much fun! The family still talks about various things we did during that week. Six months prior to their wedding, and before I started dating my fiance, I went to Disney World for the first time and fell in love! Everything was so magical and wonderful. I wanted to live and breathe Disney after that; I wanted to get married there, I wanted to honeymoon there, I wanted to go for the Holiday season to see it decorated...
You can see how ironic it was that I met my fiance and then went to his brothers wedding in Disney. It was amazing and it made me want to get married there even more. And then I thought to myself, "With my luck I'll marry him, and we wont be able to get married in Disney World because his brother did it first."
Well, here we are... engaged, and all I can think about is having my own Disney Wedding. Here's where the problem comes in. My fiance casually mentioned that we were thinking about doing our own wedding in Disney, and his mother didn't seem too excited, as his side of the family has been there many times, and has already done a Disney wedding. Her response was "That has already been done. You guys should do something else." His brother replied with "That's not really your thing"
We are planning on sitting down with his parents very soon to discuss this because this has been my dream for a while now, and I want them to know how important it would be to me, to be able to have a wedding in Disney World too. But a huge part of me feels awkward to be "copying them" I wish that his brother had embraced the idea from the beginning, but he didn't and I think that's where part of my reservations are coming from. I don't want to make him or his wife feel bad that we are taking their idea, and making their day any less special...
With that being said, my entire family has been pushing me to do what I want. They say it is my wedding, and I should do what makes me happy...they had their day, and now its my day and it wont take away from their experience at all. I agree with that, but I can't shake this feeling that makes me feel weird and uncomfortable because his brother already did it, and it was something really new and unique and special for them. I dont want to take that away from them...
Am I just being silly feeling this way? I've read other threads from people with similar problems, and everyones advice is we'll just regret it for the rest of our lives if we do something we don't really want to. but how can I get what I want, and not hurt their feelings too? I am really upset because I am supposed to be happy and excited to plan my wedding, and i feel neither of those things. You're advice is really truly appreciated!