Sometimes whether it's perceived as the wrong thing by others it may be the right thing by that one person; it's also a decision that may change over time (and yes it could be too late at that point).Yeah, neither are we to say what’s best for him if it’s what HE wishes.
Boy, some frosty people here who would deny a dying man his one wish.
Who said he's dying? He's claimed to have two heart attacks, with no proof. There is no proof he is dying. He's a con man who lies for sympathy. Seems it is working with some.Yeah, neither are we to say what’s best for him if it’s what HE wishes.
Boy, some frosty people here who would deny a dying man his one wish.
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I realized the other night that’s probably some of why I feel for the dad - he reminds me of someone. And I will not be surprised to read that he has passed away. No one says they have to be best buds. But, for me, his being able to at least meet his son in law and grandson would go a long way. I also feel like you do - I’ve had a lot go on in my life and I believe in the concept of forgiveness, if only so we don’t have to hold bitterness in our hearts. But that is just me, I know it’s not for everyone.
That's exactly what I meant. I never said that Meghan's dad was abusive. I was using my own life to explain why I refuse to judge Meghan for how she's acting towards her father. I know if at some point I choose to cut my father off from my kids that plenty of people will probably judge me negatively. They won't know or understand why though before they judge me. All we know is what we're told. She might be an awful person or he might. They both might be awful. I have no way of knowing so I choose to assume that she has her reasons.No, you don't understand it. Neither do I. Meghan doesn't owe either of us an explanation. Frankly, she may not even owe him an explanation. At this point, they are both better off without each other in their lives and should both just move on.
What a grand world it would be if everyone would just move on.
I think everyone's opinion is based on their own experiences. Its hard not to do that.
But, I think both sides deserve the right to be heard. I am unsure why everything she says has to be truth and everything he says has to be a lie. I think the truth is somewhere in the middle.
From the first article that Pea posted, he sounds hurt and he is lashing out in a very unproductive way. But maybe he sees it as a way to hurt her in the same way he is hurt. He should be an adult and not do that but doesn't make him evil either.
They were close at one time. This isn't a case of "he has always been toxic". That closeness is what is making it painful for both sides of the equation. They need to talk privately and hash it out.
Cutting people out of your life is not always the answer.
I agree. I think in this situation the truth is somewhere in the middle.I think everyone's opinion is based on their own experiences. Its hard not to do that.
But, I think both sides deserve the right to be heard. I am unsure why everything she says has to be truth and everything he says has to be a lie. I think the truth is somewhere in the middle.
From the first article that Pea posted, he sounds hurt and he is lashing out in a very unproductive way. But maybe he sees it as a way to hurt her in the same way he is hurt. He should be an adult and not do that but doesn't make him evil either.
They were close at one time. This isn't a case of "he has always been toxic". That closeness is what is making it painful for both sides of the equation. They need to talk privately and hash it out.
Cutting people out of your life is not always the answer.
Can you imagine living a life where people make documentaries about your relationship with your Father. Wow, those poor people.Just out, in case anyone here wants to watch it:
Cutting people out of your life is not always the answer.
I disagree that he should "stop talking". Why should he?
There's been a lot of misinformation about him and intrusion into his life and he wishes to set the story straight. I don't blame him. He didn't ask to be thrust into the spotlight because his daughter married a prince.
I agree with a pp, a little bit better communication from the get go could've averted a lot of these problems.
I disagree that he should "stop talking". Why should he?
There's been a lot of misinformation about him and intrusion into his life and he wishes to set the story straight. I don't blame him. He didn't ask to be thrust into the spotlight because his daughter married a prince.
I agree with a pp, a little bit better communication from the get go could've averted a lot of these problems.
And she chases the spotlight as well. In a very similar fashion as other actresses who always are watching for the next profitable opportunity. You generally have to be current, relevant to get the work or the endorsement deal.I disagree. He continues to want that spotlight. And his behavior only makes it more understandable why his daughter isn’t speaking to him.
I have a personal note too. I sit with people who are dying all the time. Sometimes they have regrets and wish things could've been different. Oftentimes they even realize they themselves could've made better choices. Isn't that true of all of us? At the end of our lives having peace is a wonderful thing. We all have the ability to help people find peace, and in the process, we can find peace ourselves. But when we're busy in mid-life we don't always see it or make time for it. It's only when we have time to reflect that we realize we maybe could've done things differently; done things better. And not just for others, but for ourselves. Obviously not everyone will be presented with, see, or take, these opportunities.Sometimes whether it's perceived as the wrong thing by others it may be the right thing by that one person; it's also a decision that may change over time (and yes it could be too late at that point).
To give a personal note my sister does not talk to my mom's side of the family. When my grandfather passed away in 2009 she did come to the visitation and at that point it had been 6 years since she had seen anyone from my mom's side, when my grandmother passed away in 2019 she did not come to the visitation and at that point it had been 10 years since she had seen anyone from my mom's side. I do not speak to my father but were he on his death bed or had died I'd be there in a heartbeat and can confidently say that.
Not that I don't see where you're coming from because it seems like a simple easy request to fufill and for you and others on the outside it may look like a wrong decision or to use your words "frosty people". When it comes to breakdowns in blood relations no one wins; I won't pretend that I've won just by having a very toxic person out of my life for the time being because I haven't, it's the decision I had to make for me. I won't pretend that my sister won just by having a toxic person out of her life because she hasn't, it's the decision she felt she had to make for her. I won't judge my sister for not coming to our grandmother's visitation even if I know I couldn't have done what she did and I won't do that when the time comes for my father. But I do see how hard it can be for people to come to grips with it--my mom had a hard time understanding why my sister didn't come even though I could.
**I say visitation because the funeral was held out of state
I've never met another person in my life nor have I heard one poster on the various threads that have shared their personal stories who have said they haven't tried to do other things prior to just cutting ties with someone. It's perhaps maybe misguided, IMO, to say cutting people out of your life is not always the answer as if the assumption is nothing else was ever done prior to that.
Of course given that these things are always with some things known not I will fully say it's possible someone has done that before I just haven't met nor heard of someone doing it. From all I've heard from or had experience with it was a decision made not lightly and with a multitude of attempts to mend the tear.