Thanks, everybody , for your comments and concerns. Yes, this is a decision that it filled with conflict.
I am going to ask the OB for a quick appt today. Her Dr. has always told us that that she will do anything possible to help. I quick re-check today will tell us if she is progressing, is still the same, or has regressed.
She has absolutely no other symptoms and is not even uncomfortable. In fact, she has only had 2 or 3 days when she was exceedingly uncomfortable and those were over a week ago when the baby was in a strange position. She has made several comments about how this pregancy has been easy and "no problem". For an ADD, CAPD teen to say that, then you know it is truly not unbearable. Her Dr. has often remared about how easy this has been for her and how great she is doing. Even though I am not the one to be carrying the baby, I am with her 24/7 and her welfare is my top concern.
This 39-hour getaway is much, much more than just an anniversary trip. I haven't posted much about my/our personal struggles. For the last 2 years, we have put our marital life on hold for our children. Normally, that is not a healthy decision and is not recommended. In our case, it is a matter of life & death for our DD. DH travels a lot and I used to go with him. That is not possible now. DH will push back his retirement date (years away!) because we have a new child to support. We have made choices to strengthen our family and support both of our children in very conceivable way.
For over 4 months, we have tried to get 3 days, 2 nights away for "just us". Every time, something happened that keep us at home. Once the baby comes, we will not only be the primary custodial parents for a while (it will take DD quite some time to come to terms with a baby, her mental state, school, etc...) but we will also be on "high alert" for her probable depression that will follow. Our plate will be more than full. It will be boiling over.
As with all of our past decisions, our children's health and well-being will make the final choice for us. We have been in this situation many, many, many times. This is very common for parents of special needs children. You "learn" to push yourself away and put them first, because you are their life-line. Even if we do not go, I still have an incredible, intricate, and strong support system for our DD. We have a long, long chain of people that DD wants to be involved. Until the hard labor hits, she will prefer to keep it all light & friendly. I will stay in the background, supporting her.
She wants us to go. She has even given me a list of things to bring back for the baby!
The only reason we have not cancelled already is because we are desparately still tryng to find a few minutes to celebrate our marriage. A marriage that has lasted for 26 years and will continue for many more. A marriage that has seen despair, grief, and pain, completely out of our control. A marriage that needs just one evening out, to talk about nothing but the weather and which dessert looks best. .......and there's something about WDW that can put us at ease the minute we drive onto the property. The personal toll us both of us has been devastating and our psychiatric team is pushing us to recognize that we are not invincible and cannot handle everything, all the time. We are facing the most trying times yet, and that is frightening. We must face them together or we cannot help our growing family.
We will not make any decision that we could possibly regret. We have gone through too much, have come too far, and have such a long way to go to rock the boat now.
Thanks, dear friends, for your love and concern!