We’ve surprised our kids twice, and will surprise them for a third time next week.
1st trip: Kids were 9, 9, and 10. We told them we had to go to the airport to see their grandparents off. That was a lie. We got to the airport and the grandparents told them they weren’t going anywhere, we were! The two boys were super excited, but my daughter, the 10 year old, panicked a bit about missing school. Fortunately, I had gotten all their work from their teachers and had it all packed. I had also written a note for her best friends and had asked the teacher to give it to the friends so they knew where my DD was and why she hadn’t said anything. Knowing those two things were crucial in allowing my DD to relax and then the excitement hit her as well. Trust your gut on your kids. Our DD reacted exactly the way we expected, but we were prepared and were able to still love the moment. After we told the kids where we were going, my husband and father in law went out to the car and brought our luggage in. We had also bought the kids their own day packs and had them filled with fun stuff for the trip. It was easily one of many highlights of our first trip! The only negative was having to haul all their school work with us, then doing the work while on vacation.
2nd trip, two years later, kids were 11, 11, and 12: We had wanted another last minute reveal again, but several factors came into play that forced us to do our reveal several weeks ahead of time. Our family enjoys games, so quite spontaneously decided to combine an afternoon of family games with our reveal. We wrote, “We are going to Florida Feb 22” on index cards and cut them out by letters. Each time a kid won a game, they got a letter. When all the letters were passed out, we told the kids it was time to unscramble them for a fun message. It was awesome. Even though we hadn’t planned on telling them when we did, we loved letting them know and being able to share the excitement in the weeks leading up to our trip. Another bonus to the earlier reveal was that each child was able to get their make up work done before we even left.
3rd trip, two years later, kids are 13, 13, and 14: After the second trip, all three kids told us if we ever go again, they wanted to be surprised, and wanted to be surprised as close to departure as possible. So for trip 3 we will let them know one week ahead of time. My husband really wanted a morning of reveal, but I really didn’t like doing homework on the trip. I’m hoping with the one week they can get some (all???) of their work done before we go. So we compromised and went with a week. We will tell them next Thursday.