Facebook pet peeves.

[cabanafrau]

My boys actually got a nice note from their uncle (wife's side of the family) who said that even though he's far away, thanks to Facebook, he's enjoyed keeping up with what's going on in their lives. To me, that's the one benefit of Facebook - the ability for those who wouldn't normally be able to keep in touch very well to get updates on family and friends in different areas.

I think it's possible Facebook can be useful and enjoyable. Generally what I hear though is a bunch of disagreements and unpleasantness that would be avoided if people simply exercised better judgment in using it or in reading it -- or simply didn't participate.

For myself, I've got other ways of staying in touch with people in my life that I find much more satisfying and don't seem to leave opportunity for drama to crop up so I have chosen to steer clear of Facebook and like it that way.

 

[mousefan73]

Yeah, I think I still need someone to explain to me, very slowly, why it is that I'm missing so much without a Facebook?

Well I can only post what I would miss out on if I did not have Facebook. It makes the world a lot smaller for me. I live far away from any of my family and friends and Facebook’s platform is the best there is.Granted there’s the telephone and email to keep in touch with people. But do you remember those group emails, decades ago, You couldn’t just add pictures, you had attach pictures to click and open basically a PIA. You would lose the email or delete the email. Facebook is great in the timeline features and group features. Why do you think FE Groups for Disney cruises are mainly found on Facebook and no longer here or another cruise website? The functionality of Facebook is very simple and much better to manage groups.

Also I am the in the generation where there was a gap between graduating from high school and when Facebook existed. During this time we lost touch of a lot of people. Once Facebook came back into the picture we all found each other again and even though the relationship is virtual it’s better than nothing. Even if it’s a happy birthday post on their timeline or sharing pictures I still appreciate that. Facebook really helps in maintaining older relationships When people move or go in different Directions.

And also with Facebook messenger I can FaceTime or call anyone Of my Facebook friends regardless of the phone brand they have, calling plan they have, Or if their number changes and I don’t know. t’s free as long as I have wifi

 

[mjkacmom]

I’ve never had any Facebook drama. I like hearing from old friends, I belong to many local community pages, and I love cute puppy videos. Whatever doesn’t interest me, I scroll by. I’ve only unfriended one person, my friend’s ex husband, because she asked me too. Facebook is for fluff, I call and text my close friends and family.

 

[lovin'fl]

I hate the Facebook!

Vaguebooking...the "I need prayers right now" or "OMG, I am so done" and people ask why and crickets.

Facebragging...the constant posts about how great their kids or spouse is. Putting every little award or trophy or certificate or good grades or getting accepted into something or volunteering your kid does. And some of these kids (or husbands), you know, are not ALL that great.

Fake people or Photo filtering...there are some on my FB who filter and doctor all photos to look way better than they actually look. Take photos at certain angles to look skinnier (and pose in ways to look skinnier) and filter the face to look flawless.

Rude and crude...I have a couple who post trashy stuff. One cousin is photographer and posts almost porn shots. Other cousins, 2 brothers and their wives, post crude jokes and cuss a lot and are big partiers.

Old folks posts...my mom, bless her heart, shares junk crap on my wall. Silly adds or jokes or memes or fake news stuff she believes is true. Yet when she has a question or comment to me, she posts it on her wall so I may or may not see it.

Political...some folks are obsessed and post several political rants a day. My brother is one. Literally more than one political post a day and some days it's a whole page of stuff (like 5 things in a row).

FB really is crap. It's a bad bad thing. I try to stay off. I live 5 hours away from parents, siblings and extended family and my 2 DDs go to college 9 hours away so I kinda use it to keep connected to those. But I mostly glance and log off and will post pics of stuff we do because our parents like to see. I hate the whole 'like' button game. And having to comment. I feel like I have to, always hit like and comment, with some certain folks or else they'll think we don't care. These are the folks who get self worth from how many FB friends, likes and comments they get. Which is the ultimate reason why FB is so bad for you. It really is not a good thing.

Hey Facebook, you suck!!!!!

 

[morgan98]

Yeah, I think I still need someone to explain to me, very slowly, why it is that I'm missing so much without a Facebook account?

I know of so many people who get in so many skirmishes or are nursing hurt feelings or wind up feeling down because of Facebook drama or Facebook bragging. How is it that intelligent and mature adults suddenly toss away most or all of their critical thinking and judgment when it comes to this social media noise?

I am also fairly introverted and could really care less about everyone's drama. I am not anti-social, but I cannot deal with the constant stream of Facebook posts.

I have a small family and a small circle of people we are close to. I manage to keep updated with everything I need to know about without Facebook. I also never would want to risk anything Facebook crossing over into my business life either. I understand there are settings to control this, etc. but for me just saying no to Facebook has worked for me.

 

[Hikergirl]

My biggest FB pet peeve is "friends" who don't bother to contact me other than using it to peddle their It Works, Plexus or other crap.

 

[tvguy]

That Facebook is becoming the way Police, Fire, and Government agencies put out emergency information and official information.
10 years ago they would e-mail all that out. One place for me to look for information, my In Box.
Today I literally am going through 192 official Facebook pages looking for updates.

 

[luvsJack]

theres also this great feature called Facebook Groups. Anyone can set up a group. For example, you could have a Family group, where people can post things which are of interest to everyone, for example, photos of their kids, holiday photos etc. You dont have to be friends with anyone in the group, that way you still keep in contact BUT dont see all their posts you have no interest in or all the religious posts you find offensive etc etc.

The same with work collegues, you can have a work group, but dont HAVE to friend everyone you work with.

I also have a big block list and have very high security settings, which means I rarely get random friend requests.

I just dont understand why people are not more selective with the the people they friend on Facebook

Lol the ones I have unfollowed, I didn’t know they were like they are until I friended them.

And yes, I know about groups. Actually in a few. And usually bail out because they become something they weren’t intended for.

My supervisors all sent friend requests. Not something I am going to ignore or not accept. But it’s not really an issue. There really isn’t anyone I work with that I wouldn’t friend.

 

[soccerdad72]

I think it's possible Facebook can be useful and enjoyable. Generally what I hear though is a bunch of disagreements and unpleasantness that would be avoided if people simply exercised better judgment in using it or in reading it -- or simply didn't participate.

I'm pretty good at ignoring the drama online. Even the pet peeves I have with it, I manage to get over quickly.

 

[cluvsdisney]

People looking for drama and attention
Passive aggressive posts
And this one friend who posts something like 100 pictures of her grandsons every single day (on instagram too). There will be a series of pictures of them eating cereal, playing a game, getting into bed. I wonder if she'll ever do anything with the 40,000+ pictures and videos she takes of them every year.


Edited to add: In general, I enjoy facebook and it's a very easy way to stay in touch with friends who live all over the place. I have private/secret groups with them which is where 80% of my FB activity takes place. I'm also in some special interest groups, mostly for idea sharing. If I ever find that it's taking up a lot of negative energy, I would shut it down.

 

[amberpi]

As with most things in life I think it's all about moderation.

Check-in at your favorite local place to give it some publicity? Cool. Check in every time you grab Starbucks? Annoying.

Shout to your SO for going above and beyond? Awesome. Documenting your entire relationship with hearts? Gross.

Occasional political post to promote a cause especially close to you? Great. Posting all the negative crap multiple times a day about the "other side?" Hellish.

Sharing that your kid got honor roll for the year? Swell - good job buddy! Sharing the ins and outs of a progress report? What are those even? Mini-report cards?

I love to hear about my friend's promotions, new relations, their adorable kid pics, etc. I especially enjoy all cat videos/pics I can consume. Makes me happy. The one real life (although not a pet peeve) thing that has hurt my feelings quite a bit is that my only living grandparent is FB friends with one only grandchild and comments and gushes over her entire life. Kinda stings the other 8 of us are left out.

 

[cabanafrau]

Well I can only post what I would miss out on if I did not have Facebook. It makes the world a lot smaller for me. I live far away from any of my family and friends and Facebook’s platform is the best there is.Granted there’s the telephone and email to keep in touch with people. But do you remember those group emails, decades ago, You couldn’t just add pictures, you had attach pictures to click and open basically a PIA. You would lose the email or delete the email. Facebook is great in the timeline features and group features. Why do you think FE Groups for Disney cruises are mainly found on Facebook and no longer here or another cruise website? The functionality of Facebook is very simple and much better to manage groups.

Also I am the in the generation where there was a gap between graduating from high school and when Facebook existed. During this time we lost touch of a lot of people. Once Facebook came back into the picture we all found each other again and even though the relationship is virtual it’s better than nothing. Even if it’s a happy birthday post on their timeline or sharing pictures I still appreciate that. Facebook really helps in maintaining older relationships When people move or go in different Directions.

And also with Facebook messenger I can FaceTime or call anyone Of my Facebook friends regardless of the phone brand they have, calling plan they have, Or if their number changes and I don’t know. t’s free as long as I have wifi

FB didn't exist when I graduated from high school either. I'm still friends with the people I was close with back then, excepting a couple who changed dramatically from those days in a negative way. I send people more photos with my phone than I ever did with email.

So far we haven't pulled the trigger on a cruise yet, are the FE groups the trading things where people are bringing dollar store "treasures" for other people on the cruise? Sorry, all the room in my overpacked luggage is for all of my wardrobe options that I'm somehow certain I NEED. Nothing in the dollar store is going to win against a cute top or pair of shoes.

I manage to be quite social and in touch with a wide variety of people from many places and times in my life. I get to hear personally their joy when their kid gets a scholarship, crunched up the car, they got a new job or they're crushed because their mom is slipping away into dementia. Occasionally I hear things word of mouth from a cousin or another friend, but I'm personally in touch with enough of my network on a regular basis that I'm in regular contact or in the know about most people I'm actually close with. I don't wish any ill on people who are more acquaintances in my world, but I put effort into keeping my important relationships close and I value my time that's just for me myself. I don't really think I have time for another dozen, 40, 60 actual relationships.

 

[mousefan73]

That Facebook is becoming the way Police, Fire, and Government agencies put out emergency information and official information.
10 years ago they would e-mail all that out. One place for me to look for information, my In Box.
Today I literally am going through 192 official Facebook pages looking for updates.

true our town has a facebook book page and all updates are there. nice thing is they can also upload files and documents. when there is planned road construction in town that is the first place posted. People post lost pets there.

 

[jrmasm]

There isn't nearly enough drama on my feed. I hate that!

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Sharing the ins and outs of a progress report? What are those even? Mini-report cards?

You never had progress reports growing up?

That was very common in my schooling days. Heck in elementary school and middle school we had to have our parents sign off on them a lot of times.

 

[DisneyHardin]

Another vote for Vaugebooking - A lady I work with constantly posts "Unspoken Prayers Needed". It is totally for attention. She used to get lots of responses that said things like "call if you need to talk", "Praying for you", etc. Now, no one even replies anymore because she posts it so much.

My other is people that don't seem to quite understand the sharing aspect. This other lady that I used to work "shares" the weirdest things all the time

 

[amberpi]

You never had progress reports growing up?

That was very common in my schooling days. Heck in elementary school and middle school we had to have our parents sign off on them a lot of times.

We had report cards like every 6 weeks I think. I'm old though Maybe we had them and I just don't remember it being a thing?

 

[robinb]

The number of "sponsored" ads on the FB app. I came back from vacation and FB jacked up the frequency of ads to 1 out of 5 posts. I use "Facebook Purity" on my computer which filters out "suggested" posts/ads.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

We had report cards like every 6 weeks I think. I'm old though Maybe we had them and I just don't remember it being a thing?

Maybe it's terminology.

Progress reports were sent out around the same amount of time/intervals as your report cards (basically end of the quarter). But they were called progress reports. Report cards were at the end of the semester (or in the case of my middle school trimester). Our progress reports were also per class too a lot of times and they would then show assignments and your grade. It was basically a way to ensure the kid was chugging along ok and able to get them back on track faster if something was off track (like homework was being turned in, assignments weren't being done, etc). The teacher themselves may also send more frequent progress reports rather than just a few.

Have no idea if they do them nowadays though.

 

[amberpi]

Maybe it's terminology.

Progress reports were sent out around the same amount of time/intervals as your report cards (basically end of the quarter). But they were called progress reports. Report cards were at the end of the semester (or in the case of my middle school trimester). Our progress reports were also per class too a lot of times and they would then show assignments and your grade. It was basically a way to ensure the kid was chugging along ok and able to get them back on track faster if something was off track (like homework was being turned in, assignments weren't being done, etc). The teacher themselves may also send more frequent progress reports rather than just a few.

Have no idea if they do them nowadays though.

Maybe, but I'm getting the impression students get both now? IDK, it was just an example, but I am going to have to ask my teacher mom tonight at the kids holiday pageant. Can't wait to see 2 and 4 olds sing and dance...lol.