Super useful info! Generally location in NYC doesn't bother me (we go everywhere). We usually use yelp and only hit up spots that are 4 stars or higher, or were recommended by articles online. Had too many terrible experiences with lower ratings (whether food or services). The amount of eating out sounds excessive...but most of my friends are in finance where the Company pays for dinner if they work late, which ends up happening quite often.
I'll be honest with you I think you might be underwhelmed if you're travelling with that sort of crowd and have expectations. Having said that I haven't eaten in V &A or Jinko.
I'm from a burb of NYC and am in accounting and have been treated to nice dinners on the company dime at the higher end steak places and various others as well. I haven't been to the super high end restaurants either. However, I was a bit underwhelmed by some of Disney, with the bigger disappointment being BOG at dinner. I think you need to temper your expectations to what some of the folks here have said.
I don't quite subscribe that an out of town 4 star is a nyc 3 star, there is good food everywhere. I do think that NYC has a plethora of restaurants in the high end that if you're used to that, you will be disappointed in normal restaurants in other places. I also think that some places do some types of food better and there is a sliding scale depending on where you are. Throwing examples of seafood from a coastal town compared to flyover country, Italian food in NY vs almost anywhere, BBQ from southern locals compared to a lot in the north. I'm not saying there aren't exceptions, but as a general rule, that 4 star BBQ restaurant in boston is likely closer to a 3 star in Austin.
For Disney, from one NYer to another, don't order italian food, don't order pizza, don't have a bagel, don't expect a farm to table experience and you'll likely be pretty happy.
I have had good experiences in Saana and Homecomin. I've had a good lunch at BOG. However if you want o know my favorite "dining" experiences in Disney are BOMA and the Hoop de doo revue.
You can enjoy food at WDW, there are plenty that is good, but don't think you're doing a wine and food tour of Napa.