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- Jan 23, 2013
Stress is a strong word but my biggest worry is trying to figure out what to get DH's family and keeping everything as even as possible for our kids.
I try really hard to keep everything as even as possible between the kids as far as money spent and, when they were younger, number of presents. DH rolls his eyes when I pull out my list and tally up everything and the other day went so far as to tell me if I didn't put the list away he was going to make me use it as toilet paper lol. He doesn't understand the need because he had a family that kept everything equitable. My mom grew up in a family where that was not the case and my grandmother used gifts as punishment. I'm not fanatical about it but try to keep the money spent the same within $20 or so.
DD12 is older now and understands that some gifts cost more than others and therefore she will have fewer gifts. She is also starting to like experiences more than, or as much as, gifts which means there are even fewer things under the tree for her to open. I tallied everything up the other day and right now it looks like DS is trailing about $100 behind DSD8 and $150 behind DD12 but he has more presents than either of them. So now I'm worried about trying to even it out when in reality, DS is currently 7 months old. All he cares about is eating the wrapping paper so I'm not sure I will get him too much more. DD12 is running higher right now because her big gift is likely going to be SCUBA diving lessons which are expensive and will be a combined birthday/Christmas present. Even so, I ended up spending a bit more on her this year due to that so I probably won't get her much of anything at all to open on her birthday in a few months.
I try really hard to keep everything as even as possible between the kids as far as money spent and, when they were younger, number of presents. DH rolls his eyes when I pull out my list and tally up everything and the other day went so far as to tell me if I didn't put the list away he was going to make me use it as toilet paper lol. He doesn't understand the need because he had a family that kept everything equitable. My mom grew up in a family where that was not the case and my grandmother used gifts as punishment. I'm not fanatical about it but try to keep the money spent the same within $20 or so.
DD12 is older now and understands that some gifts cost more than others and therefore she will have fewer gifts. She is also starting to like experiences more than, or as much as, gifts which means there are even fewer things under the tree for her to open. I tallied everything up the other day and right now it looks like DS is trailing about $100 behind DSD8 and $150 behind DD12 but he has more presents than either of them. So now I'm worried about trying to even it out when in reality, DS is currently 7 months old. All he cares about is eating the wrapping paper so I'm not sure I will get him too much more. DD12 is running higher right now because her big gift is likely going to be SCUBA diving lessons which are expensive and will be a combined birthday/Christmas present. Even so, I ended up spending a bit more on her this year due to that so I probably won't get her much of anything at all to open on her birthday in a few months.