So I am going to come at this from a bit of a different angle and not even address the issues between you and your spouse because.. that is between you and your spouse. However, I show dogs. I know what that involves and the kind of commitment it takes and the amount of work. If your daughter is a committed junior handler who has the goal, as most do of qualifying to go to Orlando or Westminster in the next year or two she spends a significant amount of time with her dogs, training, grooming, practicing, and you probably have a significant time commitment to travel as well. If dogs shows are in her long term plan for the future she may be working for or apprenticing with a professional handler as well-more travel and time consuming hard work. Between shows and school and any other activities she is involved in she does not have time for a kitten. I think you know this perfectly well, and that you know that the burden of care for the kitten would fall on you-or more likely your husband since I know perfectly well that you spend a good deal of time-especially on weekends-away from home at dog shows. While those have been on hiatus for a good part of 2020 we are starting to show again, which means you are looking at getting a kitten just as you and your daughters time commitment to her dogs upticks. Unfair to both the prospective kitten and your husband who would be left caring for it.