china mom
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- Feb 15, 2010
Well, the thing it that it is YOUR home and that if you brought the woman into your home, you should be able to get her out.
I am not saying any of this is easy. But dealing with the dynamics of all of this is way too stressful. If Carol oversteps, call her out on it. Your family is not her family and letting her have a say in things is probably a bad answer.
I don't want to get rid of Carol. I love her. It is just hard sometimes. But then, the kids can be hard too sometimes and I'm not getting rid of them (yet).
I am calling her out when needed. She gets huffy and acts hurt but then we all get over it. For a while, DH thought I was being too hard on her so I took a step back and just started pointing things out to him (after the fact) instead of saying something to her. He gets it now and lets me correct her without judging me for it.