Mackenzie Click-Mickelson
Chugging along the path of life
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- Oct 23, 2015
The update sounds like a script for a lifetime movie or something.
You dragged poor Carol into your mess. If she had agreed with you, you wouldn’t have had a problem with it. It’s wrong to hold it against her when you put her (and your DS and DH) on the spot.It was. I ended up telling DH that he is not allowed to speak to me until tomorrow afternoon as I headed out to pick up carry out Chinese for the kids. carol retreated to her apartment and cooked her own dinner (she usually eats with us). DS needed reassuring that DH was wrong to blame him for assuming that he was in on telling DD. And it is going to take me a while to get over carol imposing her parenting ideas on my family.
And I will never hear from the exterminator again.
You dragged poor Carol into your mess. If she had agreed with you, you wouldn’t have had a problem with it. It’s wrong to hold it against her when you put her (and your DS and DH) on the spot.
And for the love of Pete just sit down and have the very frank and real conversation you should have a had a couple of years ago. You’re making it worse than it has to be by hemming and hawing and pussyfooting around the whole thing. Ten or eleven I could see the hesitation but at 14.5 you aren’t doing her any favors.
The update sounds like a script for a lifetime movie or something.
Sorry china, but I find it easier to believe in Santa Clause AND a 6’ Easter Bunny than your latest post. A big thumbs up for creative writing, though!
Yes, but now that Lori Loughlin is out, who will star in it??
Well there are lots of other excellent choices. I’ve always said I’d want Tia Leone to play me in the movie. We look nothing alike but I think she could really capture my essence!
You dragged poor Carol into your mess. If she had agreed with you, you wouldn’t have had a problem with it. It’s wrong to hold it against her when you put her (and your DS and DH) on the spot.
And for the love of Pete just sit down and have the very frank and real conversation you should have a had a couple of years ago. You’re making it worse than it has to be by hemming and hawing and pussyfooting around the whole thing. Ten or eleven I could see the hesitation but at 14.5 you aren’t doing her any favors.
You are right, I was wrong to not have given everyone a heads up about this being the day that I would tell her about the bunny. I get what I get when I don't have the conversation scripted and should have worked it out with Carol ahead of time. And if she feels so adamantly that DD should not be told, I should have left her out of it.
She is more than just a tenant and friend, though. She considers herself the kids' grandmother and, by all means, she is not shy about inserting herself into family business and making "parenting" comments and such. It is not like I went to a next door neighbor or something. And, I didn't involve the exterminator.
I agree that the hemming and hawing caused this crisis and that responsibility falls directly on DH. I wanted to be frank and tell her years ago.
You are right, I was wrong to not have given everyone a heads up about this being the day that I would tell her about the bunny. I get what I get when I don't have the conversation scripted and should have worked it out with Carol ahead of time. And if she feels so adamantly that DD should not be told, I should have left her out of it.
She is more than just a tenant and friend, though. She considers herself the kids' grandmother and, by all means, she is not shy about inserting herself into family business and making "parenting" comments and such. It is not like I went to a next door neighbor or something. And, I didn't involve the exterminator.
I agree that the hemming and hawing caused this crisis and that responsibility falls directly on DH. I wanted to be frank and tell her years ago.
No, it falls on you both. At this point not telling is for your benefit not hers. You don’t want to be the bad guy and while I get that it’s part of the parenting process. If kids don’t come to the conclusion naturally at a reasonable age then it’s your job to tell them. Not hint, be candid and straight. They’ll get over it.You are right, I was wrong to not have given everyone a heads up about this being the day that I would tell her about the bunny. I get what I get when I don't have the conversation scripted and should have worked it out with Carol ahead of time. And if she feels so adamantly that DD should not be told, I should have left her out of it.
She is more than just a tenant and friend, though. She considers herself the kids' grandmother and, by all means, she is not shy about inserting herself into family business and making "parenting" comments and such. It is not like I went to a next door neighbor or something. And, I didn't involve the exterminator.
I agree that the hemming and hawing caused this crisis and that responsibility falls directly on DH. I wanted to be frank and tell her years ago.
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I am not trying to be critical, but the dynamics around this seem overly complicated.
No, it falls on you both. At this point not telling is for your benefit not hers. You don’t want to be the bad guy and while I get that it’s part of the parenting process. If kids don’t come to the conclusion naturally at a reasonable age then it’s your job to tell them. Not hint, be candid and straight. They’ll get over it.
Again I apologize if you discussed this somewhere upthread - may I ask why on God’s good earth your husband and friend/grandma are so insanely vested in having your teenage daughter continue to believe? That they would both “double-down” and insist to her that you were lying is mind-blowing.You are right, I was wrong to not have given everyone a heads up about this being the day that I would tell her about the bunny. I get what I get when I don't have the conversation scripted and should have worked it out with Carol ahead of time. And if she feels so adamantly that DD should not be told, I should have left her out of it.
She is more than just a tenant and friend, though. She considers herself the kids' grandmother and, by all means, she is not shy about inserting herself into family business and making "parenting" comments and such. It is not like I went to a next door neighbor or something. And, I didn't involve the exterminator.
I agree that the hemming and hawing caused this crisis and that responsibility falls directly on DH. I wanted to be frank and tell her years ago.
Yes, it is overly complicated. And, consider me a cautionary tale: think hard and long before bringing another woman into your home.
Most of the time, Carol and I get along great but there are times when I realize that she over estimates her role in our family. Her daughter is my age and her grand-kids slightly older than my children and sometimes she forgets that she is not my mother/their grandmother.
Her daughter lives in our neighborhood and they had had some falling out and hadn't spoken in about 6 months (relationship is improving). I think my family is a surrogate for hers.