Allison
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He doesn't want to ruin this for her.
How ruined will it be for her is she is disappointed she doesn't get the item she is holding back from telling you? It is time to have a discussion.
He doesn't want to ruin this for her.
DD is an enigma. In some areas, she is very bright and in other areas, she struggles with a language processing delay that spills over into other areas. She has incredible logic in some moments and can be oblivious in others. She spends hours watching you tube vides involving technology (smart phones, ipads etc) and can explain how to fix things but then moments later demonstrated such little understanding about something like did she just meet the real Ariel.
She is in 7th grade. Do some seventh graders still believe?
How ruined will it be for her is she is disappointed she doesn't get the item she is holding back from telling you? It is time to have a discussion.
Of course, years later, I came to realize that Santa is real, but he's more than just a person, but rather a spirit that lives in all of us.
The way I remember it, I'd say in around 5th to 6th grade, a lot of kids including myself really wanted to still believe, maybe even keeping up a pretense, or trying to apply kid logic to it like, "of course Santa's real, because my parents never would've spent that much money on something for me."
Does Santa always bring everything your kids ask for? Our Santa certainly does not.
I don't agree with PP's that every 7th grader doesn't believe.
Does Santa always bring everything your kids ask for? Our Santa certainly does not.
In fairness, not all kids feel that way. And I'd venture no parents actually see it as lie per se, much less a betrayal, which to me implies the knowledge of potential harm. You may be a bit more literal than the average person. We're lucky I guess, that we never really portrayed Santa to our DS as a real entity, any more than we did Frosty the Snowman, although they are both part of our Christmas themes.I found out the truth about Santa when I was nine and I was absolutely mortified that I’d fallen victim to that ruse for as long as I did, not to mention the betrayal I felt knowing my parents would actively lie to me for that many years on end. If it had been allowed to go on until I was fourteen, I probably would’ve ended up a teen runaway. So yeah, she’s long past the point of needing to know the truth, IMO.
That said, I really do not think it’s possible that she still believes. One would have to have zero critical thinking skills, unlikely odds within their social interactions, and no access to the internet in order to continue believing to the age of fourteen in this day and age.
ETA: Just saw she’s in 7th grade, so maybe it’s not quite as bad as I imagined if she does still believe. At 14, I was in my Sophomore year of high school so that’s what I was picturing.
I realize not all kids feel that way, I was just relaying my experience. I saw it as a lie then and, well, still see it as a lie today. Needless to say, I will not be telling my son Santa is real. Lol.In fairness, not all kids feel that way. And I'd venture no parents actually see it as lie per se, much less a betrayal, which to me implies the knowledge of potential harm. You may be a bit more literal than the average person. We're lucky I guess, that we never really portrayed Santa to our DS as a real entity, any more than we did Frosty the Snowman, although they are both part of our Christmas themes.
If you still believe in Santa - please stop reading this thread.
For those still here. I have a dilemma. What do you do about a child who still believes but is probably a little too old to still believe.
My daughter is turning 14 in a couple of weeks. We have all been wondering if she still really believes or is faking it for our sake. I have a friend whose adult daughter have never admitted that they know Santa is not real but play along for fun. My friend was trying to convince me that my daughter HAS to know.
But, then, just yesterday, I was talking about needing a Christmas list so I have something to tell relatives and she gave me several items on her list but then admitted that she was holding one item back because it was too expensive to ask us for so she was going to ask Santa.
My husband is adamant that I don't spoil this for her. My son (16) makes a compelling argument for cluing her in. None of us want her to be made fun of in school and DS reminds me that finding out stings for a day or so but then you get over it.
What do you think? Tell her or not?