Mother of the groom dress advice

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  1. disykat

    disykat DIS Veteran

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    I just got word from my future DIL and beige it is. Actually gold tones. Ick! All sympathetic words accepted! I asked yesterday after finding what I hoped might be the perfect blue dress, so I'm allowing myself a few days to be quietly irritated.

    Anyway, has anyone ordered from JJ'sHouse online? I am NOT a shopper and stores in my area have not turned up any possibilities so far.
     
  2. barkley

    barkley DIS Veteran<br><font color=orange>If I ever have a

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    i'll just be sympathetic. i gave no direction to my (then) future mil regarding what she would wear to my wedding nor did my own mother receive any such directives from any of her 3 son's (then) brides to be. i've never heard of any mob/mog dress code rules (except the old standard with weddings-don't wear white).
     
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  4. WebmasterKathy

    WebmasterKathy Administrator Administrator

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    I would be cautious... there are a lot of China-based businesses like this. They show photos of dresses lifted from various sites, then have their seamstresses create a replica when you order. The quality seems to vary wildly. What you receive may not be close to what you expect. Returns and customer service are not what we expect from US companies.

    If you order from them, allow LOTS of time for a good Plan B...
     
  5. disykat

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    That is exactly what I'm afraid of!
     
  6. Christine

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    Order from Nordstrom. They have a huge selection of dresses online, some with very reasonable prices. Shipping is fast and free both ways so you can order six or seven styles, try them on and ship back. They seem to have a lot of choices for wedding guests, wedding party guests, etc. My friend's daughter is getting married next month and they all the mothers and grandmothers and sisters did their dresses this way. I do this work for work attire.

    Oh and my condolences on "beige" or "gold." While I actually love the color, it looks HORRIBLE on me.

    Here's a link to Mother of the Bride dresses in beige:
    https://shop.nordstrom.com/c/womens...72&offset=0&page=1&sort=Boosted&color='Beige'

    If you need something less formal, then just choose the "Wedding Guest" category. That's what I love about their site; how easy it is to refine the search for what you're looking for.
     
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  7. dish rag

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    Beige? Oh my.
     
  8. Princess Mulan

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    I wholeheartedly agree! Nordstrom has a range of prices, and the service is the best! Free shipping, free returns, no time limit!

    Edited to add: If you have a Nordstrom near you, it’s worth a trip. The clerks will be glad to help you find something in store or even online. All you have to do is tell them what you’re looking for, and they’ll find it!
     
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  9. OhMari

    OhMari WDW PreTrip and Trip Moderator Moderator

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    I had 4 children get married within 9 months of each other. I ordered from Dillard’s.com. They have free shipping both ways too. My credit card bill would be over a thousand dollars. They are pretty quick with returns and giving credit back right away, you do not have to wait 30 days or more.

    Is the Mother of the bride wearing beige or gold and does she wants you to match her or match the whole wedding party. It is silly if the bride feels she needs to dictate what color everyone needs to wear. But maybe she doesn’t want you to feel left out and told you the color. I would talk to her. Keep communication open.
     
  10. Pamlur

    Pamlur No longer a newbie. Still has a tag.

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    Try "Rent the Runway". They actually send you two dresses in consecutive sizes, just so one fits.
     
  11. ronandannette

    ronandannette I gave myself this tag and I "Like" myself too!

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    :flower3: Not sure if this will be of much comfort, but as the stepmother of 2, the implied instructions have always been "pay up, shut up and show up." That's exactly what I've done both times. For the first one I did wear beige and for the most recent wedding last October, which was an "Autumn Splendor" theme, the dress colour I was assigned was orange. Yes, orange (SMH). I actually found a nice one on-line at Macy's.
     
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  12. Skellingtonj

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    Why?? My mil wore what worked best for her. I’d say something.
     
  13. ronandannette

    ronandannette I gave myself this tag and I "Like" myself too!

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    This may be another of those wedding issues that are completely standard in some places and unheard of in others. It's been this way here for quite a long time. I was married 20-some years ago and both mothers checked in with me and each other to be sure what they were wearing would look good in the pictures. I didn't "assign" either of them a colour, but they both kept the overall scheme in mind when they were choosing.

    :scratchin It's not that big a deal buy any means, but thinking about it now, I wonder what I would have done if one of them had wanted to wear a really wild colour? Probably nothing, but I'm glad it didn't happen.
     
  14. js

    js Been around since before the disboards 90s crash

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    I live in New York and sometimes the bride dictates the color for all, including what the mothers will wear, but most times, it is customary for the MOG to wait to see what color the MOB has chosen so she doesnt purchase the same color.
     
  15. Kitty 34

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    OP, I was soooo fortunate that my DILs were happy with what I wore at their wedding or at least they pretended to be happy!! :teeth:

    For me that was the number one most stressful part of my sons getting married!!!

    Good luck to you! :hug:
     
  16. OKW8297

    OKW8297 Earning My Ears

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    My sympathies
     
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  17. luvsJack

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    Traditionally, here at least, the mob/mog check with each other on style and color and both colors should take the wedding colors into consideration. David’s Bridal even has a chart that shows what colors they should wear dependent on the wedding colors. But there is a choice. I would have to at least look at the chart and ask about other colors.

    Just don’t do as I saw in a recent wedding and try to out do the bride! Bride originally wanted a mermaid dress. As luck would have it she found a different style that she liked better. Mil had not seen so still was thinking mermaid. SHE picked a mermaid dress!! And it was too tight!! The bride ignored it and acted as though she didn’t even see the dress so it was fine in the end. But I have often wondered about her mindset there.
     
  18. Skellingtonj

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    I’ve never ever heard of this. I’d never tell my mom or mil what to wear. Maybe not the same color as the bridesmaids but not them. Moving on
     
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  19. mjkacmom

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    Another vote for Nordstrom, it’s like shopping in your living room, also a great selection of shoes.
     
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  20. Meriweather

    Meriweather Being a Nana is my superpower

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    I've heard it often.
    For DS's wedding, I just had to coordinate with bride's mother so we didn't wear the same color and also did not match the bridesmaids
    A specific color would be hard, especially an unbecoming one.
    Must say beige is better than orange!!
     
  21. MrsPete

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    I found my MOB dress at Belk. For $20. Actually, I bought two dresses -- obviously one went unused, but it's not so fancy; I'll wear it somewhere.

    I've heard bad stories from several of my students who've ordered prom dresses from China. The stories are either about late-late-late dresses or no dress at all /no refund. You can always google "review ____ website" and see what other people are saying about a company.

    I've never heard of mothers being assigned a specific color! However, one of the MOB dresses I bought was actually deep coral, which isn't too far from orange.
     
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