Colleen27
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Mar 31, 2007
Okay Disboarders, wanna help talk down my anxiety while I wait in the helpless limbo of "We'll get back to you on Monday"?
My mother died early yesterday morning, less than 24 hours after suffering a seizure in her sleep. It wasn't entirely unexpected, though we did think she would have more time - she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in November and was slated to start chemo to buy some extra time this coming week. She was an incredibly organized woman in the ways that matter, so I know what her wishes were right down to what funeral home to use and where she wants her ashes interred. But I have never actually dealt with the process of planning a funeral mass and luncheon and all of that, and I'm having one of those moments where I really don't feel adult enough for this. I'm sure both the woman from the funeral home and our parish staff will be helpful and reassuring when I can actually talk to them tomorrow, but that doesn't stop my mind from racing right now, you know? My MIL is wonderfully supportive and doing her best to help, but she's not Catholic so she's as new to the planning that we're going to have to do as I am.
So would anyone like to share with me their experiences and what they wish someone had told them at the time?
My mother died early yesterday morning, less than 24 hours after suffering a seizure in her sleep. It wasn't entirely unexpected, though we did think she would have more time - she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in November and was slated to start chemo to buy some extra time this coming week. She was an incredibly organized woman in the ways that matter, so I know what her wishes were right down to what funeral home to use and where she wants her ashes interred. But I have never actually dealt with the process of planning a funeral mass and luncheon and all of that, and I'm having one of those moments where I really don't feel adult enough for this. I'm sure both the woman from the funeral home and our parish staff will be helpful and reassuring when I can actually talk to them tomorrow, but that doesn't stop my mind from racing right now, you know? My MIL is wonderfully supportive and doing her best to help, but she's not Catholic so she's as new to the planning that we're going to have to do as I am.
So would anyone like to share with me their experiences and what they wish someone had told them at the time?