Mom24Princesses
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- Feb 7, 2005
Wow - I have not finished reading every post....
We got hit hard and lost pay and had a daughter start college in '09 - and another in '11. While our pay was re-instated around '15, it never "caught up" to the previous scale. AND the cost of everything went up during that time - food, gas, health insurance.
I used the Aldi market to help with groceries and still do and Walmart for groceries - We have one supermarket with an old fashioned meat market. From week to week they have different specials AND since they cut it themselves - different surplus - markdowns. 30 years ago we could afford rib-eye.
Not only is the produce expensive - the quality is often poor. There is a Sprout's Farmer's market 15 miles away that has better produce at a good price. Hard to get there every week. Trying to eat clean and healthy is a chore.
I use a Capital One Venture card to bank travel points. I put every expense I can on it and pay it off every month. I use to use the Chase Disney card for the Disney points but I got tired of only 1%. I will use it for the 6 months deferred payment of Disney Vacations. I have a Bank of America Visa just for gas - 3% cash back. All of these are for vacation money.
We learned the hard way to pay our cards off every month. Re-financed the house in '04 to pay off the credit cards. The house has been paid off a year and a half now!
Sadly we lost my FiL last year. The blessing was his frugal-ness allowed us to pay cash for a gently used truck for my husband. He has been driving hand-me-downs for 20+ years. (last was a '99 Chevy pick-up - our DD#3 took his used '03 off to college) My mini van has 110K and at least 2-3 more years before I consider a new "car". I'll be past 59.5 and can pull cash from an IRA to buy it for cash (between 2 calendar years to split the tax cost) OR get a 0% deal.
We still have 2 in college and on our health insurance, and cell phones, and car insurance. College is going up AGAIN and DD#3 needs more classes (for her major and 2 minors than her scholarship covers) DD#4 isn't on a scholarship .
Health care cost are the scariest item in the budget. Last year (2018) our health care out of pocket costs exceeded $15,000. It was more the year before. My DH and DD#4 have a chronic condition that requires more than usual visits to the doctor and often a visit to the ER. In October of '13 a routine diagnostic procedure, that everyone over 50 is recommend to have, put my DH in Emory University Hospital for 7 days! The Bill was $180K. Most of that was for a rare medication that was needed to treat him. We keep a supply in our freg at $4K a dose. There is only one source in the world. We are at the mercy of the insurance companies. We do have a non-profit support organization that helps us with the co-pays.
I see a lot of people in my corner of the world living at a level way above what they earn.
I personally prefer a vacation over a high-end purse, shoes, car, jewelry. DD#3 bought a new purse "on sale" and I poo pooed the cost. She saw my purse and sarcastically asked how much I had paid for it - thinking it looked expensive ---- $12 on sale at Walmart!!!
Our living-room furniture is second hand. We do plan to replace it finally this summer. We last bought a new couch in 1989.
An earlier poster mentioned the younger adults buying too much house too soon. Our house is in rough shape - raised 4 children in it. We plan to start flipping it this summer while we are living in it. #1 replace the original flooring (circa 1987??). My DD#2 and SiL bought a house much nicer and bigger than ours and poured money into it. The idea of starting small and moving up isn't a term they know. DD#1 and SiL are renting a really nice apartment in a really nice area for a really high price.
I don't really worry about money - I have faith in a higher place - but I believe in not being foolish. We are about to retire and take a 33% pay cut - lucky to have a pension but then our salaries are not very high to begin with. I plan to be frugal in daily life to be able to enjoy treats - like Disney. Actually looked at staying off-property for the first time in 24 years this morning - $67 per night right outside property looked interesting. With APs - (yes a splurge for retirement) we get free parking. And if I have to get a part time job to pay for trips - it will be worth it. (While I wait to be a grandmother!)
We got hit hard and lost pay and had a daughter start college in '09 - and another in '11. While our pay was re-instated around '15, it never "caught up" to the previous scale. AND the cost of everything went up during that time - food, gas, health insurance.
I used the Aldi market to help with groceries and still do and Walmart for groceries - We have one supermarket with an old fashioned meat market. From week to week they have different specials AND since they cut it themselves - different surplus - markdowns. 30 years ago we could afford rib-eye.
Not only is the produce expensive - the quality is often poor. There is a Sprout's Farmer's market 15 miles away that has better produce at a good price. Hard to get there every week. Trying to eat clean and healthy is a chore.
I use a Capital One Venture card to bank travel points. I put every expense I can on it and pay it off every month. I use to use the Chase Disney card for the Disney points but I got tired of only 1%. I will use it for the 6 months deferred payment of Disney Vacations. I have a Bank of America Visa just for gas - 3% cash back. All of these are for vacation money.
We learned the hard way to pay our cards off every month. Re-financed the house in '04 to pay off the credit cards. The house has been paid off a year and a half now!
Sadly we lost my FiL last year. The blessing was his frugal-ness allowed us to pay cash for a gently used truck for my husband. He has been driving hand-me-downs for 20+ years. (last was a '99 Chevy pick-up - our DD#3 took his used '03 off to college) My mini van has 110K and at least 2-3 more years before I consider a new "car". I'll be past 59.5 and can pull cash from an IRA to buy it for cash (between 2 calendar years to split the tax cost) OR get a 0% deal.
We still have 2 in college and on our health insurance, and cell phones, and car insurance. College is going up AGAIN and DD#3 needs more classes (for her major and 2 minors than her scholarship covers) DD#4 isn't on a scholarship .
Health care cost are the scariest item in the budget. Last year (2018) our health care out of pocket costs exceeded $15,000. It was more the year before. My DH and DD#4 have a chronic condition that requires more than usual visits to the doctor and often a visit to the ER. In October of '13 a routine diagnostic procedure, that everyone over 50 is recommend to have, put my DH in Emory University Hospital for 7 days! The Bill was $180K. Most of that was for a rare medication that was needed to treat him. We keep a supply in our freg at $4K a dose. There is only one source in the world. We are at the mercy of the insurance companies. We do have a non-profit support organization that helps us with the co-pays.
I see a lot of people in my corner of the world living at a level way above what they earn.
I personally prefer a vacation over a high-end purse, shoes, car, jewelry. DD#3 bought a new purse "on sale" and I poo pooed the cost. She saw my purse and sarcastically asked how much I had paid for it - thinking it looked expensive ---- $12 on sale at Walmart!!!
Our living-room furniture is second hand. We do plan to replace it finally this summer. We last bought a new couch in 1989.
An earlier poster mentioned the younger adults buying too much house too soon. Our house is in rough shape - raised 4 children in it. We plan to start flipping it this summer while we are living in it. #1 replace the original flooring (circa 1987??). My DD#2 and SiL bought a house much nicer and bigger than ours and poured money into it. The idea of starting small and moving up isn't a term they know. DD#1 and SiL are renting a really nice apartment in a really nice area for a really high price.
I don't really worry about money - I have faith in a higher place - but I believe in not being foolish. We are about to retire and take a 33% pay cut - lucky to have a pension but then our salaries are not very high to begin with. I plan to be frugal in daily life to be able to enjoy treats - like Disney. Actually looked at staying off-property for the first time in 24 years this morning - $67 per night right outside property looked interesting. With APs - (yes a splurge for retirement) we get free parking. And if I have to get a part time job to pay for trips - it will be worth it. (While I wait to be a grandmother!)
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