goofyernmost
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- Oct 8, 2002
I don't stay over with family, no, no, no, no, no!
I mentioned my sister’s bathroom so I’ll respond. She has a 3 bedroom 1 bath home. The door doesn’t have a lock. So you can be in the shower or using the toilet and the kids will barge in. Also, because so many people are sharing the bathroom, you feel like you have to hurry while getting ready or schedule your bathroom time. I’m always asking the kids if they need to brush their teeth or use the bathroom in general in the evenings before I step in to get ready for bed. And because the counters are already cluttered with everyone’s stuff, I feel like I have to pack up all my stuff and keep it in the bedroom. It’s just not a comfortable experience.
Hey if Marcia, Greg, Jan, Peter, Bobby and Cindy could do it....lolI mentioned my sister’s bathroom so I’ll respond. She has a 3 bedroom 1 bath home. The door doesn’t have a lock. So you can be in the shower or using the toilet and the kids will barge in. Also, because so many people are sharing the bathroom, you feel like you have to hurry while getting ready or schedule your bathroom time. I’m always asking the kids if they need to brush their teeth or use the bathroom in general in the evenings before I step in to get ready for bed. And because the counters are already cluttered with everyone’s stuff, I feel like I have to pack up all my stuff and keep it in the bedroom. It’s just not a comfortable experience.
That sounds wonderful for guests.It depends on if the family member has the room for overnight guests. For example, we stay with our eldest daughter when we visit her, as she has a guest room with it's own bathroom...where as our son who lives in the same town has a small condo with 2 large dogs that take up all of the space. and only one bathroom. (love dogs, just don't need to share the pull out bed with them, LOL)
We built our last home with overnight guests in mind. 2 bedrooms are ensuite, have their own patios and share a common living area with a coffee bar, so that they can have a cup of coffee or whatever before they emerge for the day to the main kitchen/great room.
Thank you! We think so. And, so do our 4 adult kids and friends who visit on a regular basis.That sounds wonderful for guests.
I don't even know what that means? "assign you a shift?"Not unless I have to. My youngest daughter lives in a town with no hotels so she was able to find us a private rental (converted garage) where we could stay as they had no room. From now on, we will visit with our small camper. But, do not assign me a "shift" at your house to deal with your domestic needs.
Her husband decided his wife ( my daughter)needed a break from her child rearing tasks and on vacation I needed to take over the baby and tne household chores because I am her Mom. Ummmm we were there for a couple of days and had others to visit. Yes baby boy was 8 days old and cuter tan anything but I did not show up for a "shift" with a newborm.I don't even know what that means? "assign you a shift?"
Ooof I agree that's in poor taste. I do wonder though for many new parents (most especially with a few day old baby) when family or friends visit that soon I can see where they may think you are visiting and willing and able to pitch in. I'm not saying people just offload the baby to someone else or start directing someone to do the dishes or do a load of laundry but that they may be extremely overwhelmed, parents (who are the baby's grandparents) do often visit and sorta just help. You should not have been made to feel like you're there though to just take care of the baby but I can see where there might have been a thought that you would help out. That might have been a good boundary to have laid out before the visit since the baby was so new and at least you would have known maybe to push off the visit for a while if they would have really appreciated some help while you're there and that's not what you were willing/wanting to do while visiting with them.Her husband decided his wife ( my daughter)needed a break from her child rearing tasks and on vacation I needed to take over the baby and tne household chores because I am her Mom. Ummmm we were there for a couple of days and had others to visit. Yes baby boy was 8 days old and cuter tan anything but I did not show up for a "shift" with a newborm.