What is considered as "respect" can differ a lot from 1 place to another. And from 1 generation to another.
Real life example:
My parents didn't say a word for 7 years that it bothered them that my DH wouldn't shave every day. They didn't say ONE thing about it and then 1 day, they decided that they'd had enough and told us how offensive and disrespectful it was to them that my DH would dare to not shave every day when in their presence.
Keep in mind that I don't have any brothers and not once ever growing up was this communicated as a general societal rule for them. They expected that I would somehow just "know" since my dad shaved every day. Um....ok?
I told them that it was offensive and disrespectful to US that they were so angry about that for 7 YEARS and not once ever brought it to our attention. From there on out, my DH respected their self-imposed rule whenever we were around them. During those 7 years, apparently they'd complained frequently to their friends and other relatives of ours about this, but never respected me or my DH enough to actually tell US, the people directly involved, that something DH was/was not doing was disrespectful to them.
Nor did they have any tolerance for doing things any other way. You were/are expected to somehow learn through osmosis what the expectations are for 'proper behavior' and you will be talked about behind your back when you don't do what you're expected to do, but nobody will actually ever kindly TALK to you 1-on-1 to TELL you what you're doing wrong and why it's hurtful/disrespectful/offensive to them.
And that, in my opinion, is really really dumb.
The attitude of "it's my way or the highway" is dumb and will push people away. So is an attitude of "Well, I've reached a certain milestone age so I'm entitled to be this way." No, you're not. (and by "you", I mean the proverbial 'you,' not you the replier to this post)