I'm probably really strange when it comes to this. I actually have slept better since choosing Disney. Here is why:
1. I've come to accept budgeting hell hole because I'm getting what I want not what others want for my wedding. I'd rather pay for what I want and have less people than pay an arm and a leg getting no honeymoon and a day that caters to others. I faced the fact I'm paying a large amount of money either way at least I'm getting it my way now.
2. I no longer worry about the menu. I have food allergies. This was a nightmare for me. I got so many crappy answers regarding this from other vendors. I had one tell me "You can have an all gluten free menu but you're going to have to pay a premium for that". Another two told me "We can do gluten free, and you can talk to our chef after you put down a deposit". Others said "Oh that shouldn't be that hard we can manage". My head was exploding over this. I'm not the only celiac there are up to 5 of us at a wedding with less than 50 heads!
3. My cake fiasco was a whole other deal. I had vendors telling me they'd make an exception for outside vendors for my cake only to not have it in the contract then fought over this with them telling me no itll be ok. I'm not signing anything unless its there in writing. I am very picky about my cake and gluten free cake can be excellent but it has to be done by someone who knows what they're doing. I was also worried about transporting my cake and setting it up. More head aches.
4. Logistics for our families. If we did it in our area it was going to be super expensive and his family would have to travel they weren't likely to do so without incentive beyond the wedding since it is super expensive here. If we did it in a middle ground everyone had to travel but we'd get no honeymoon and end up with 100+ heads that I didn't want to deal with. If we did it where his family is it would be cheaper, again 100+ heads and then my family would be pissy that we did it there not in our area because yes they are that silly. Making everyone travel ends all those logistical issues and gives us a honeymoon.
5. Coordinating the actual wedding. I couldn't afford a planner if we did it outside of Disney. They whole coordinating my event and making sure everything was where it needed to be just ruined it for me. It stressed me to no end.
So though yes I fret over money, and yes I worry about the little things in the end I just remember this 6 months of nightmares and breath. Then I feel a whole lot better and realize this really is easy peezy lemon squeezy for me.