tly, this is part of the problem. Some people go way over board and spend a lot of money. Others buy one or two smaller items. There is no right or wrong really. The biggest issue I see is if sibling 1 gets an over the top giver and sibling 2 gets the smaller items.
My opinion on what is a good gift means nothing, if that's not what the child wants.
and this is why many agencies make up fictitious names with fictitious wish lists for their 'trees'. that was the way the nationwide charitable organization that served the foster care community i supervised in did it every year. it's against the law to provide ANYONE (even a charity) with so much as the first name of a foster child so it would be a list w/ genders and ages that we hoped to have served. the volunteers would make up names and do their best to come up with gifts for the 'wish lists' that were popular with that gender/age. when the donations came in everything was attempted to be divided up somewhat evenly among the kids (that's why allot of organizations want items unwrapped). i even knew of higher end items (gaming systems, expensive clothing and such) being taken to obliging retailers who would exchange them for their cash value in other lower priced items so that a greater number could be purchased and more kids could be served.