My MIL, bless her heart, LOVED her grandchildren to distraction. When she passed away, she had 20 grandkids, and each and every one of them knew that Grammy adored them, and that her house was the fun house. She was also very old school Italian, and did some little things that made me a little crazy. Like insisting DS wear a hat outdoors. Normally, not odd at all, right? Well, DS was born in June, with a FULL head of hair, about 3/4 long, all over his head. So it's mid-July, 90 degrees, and she thinks he needs a hat. So I started leaving a hat in the car. I'd slap it on him when we got to her house, and take it off as soon as we got inside. She was happy, it did not hurt DS or I. Win win for everyone.
Oh, and OP, when you throw out statements like,
"We all have different things we value. I love my DD and she is my world" You can certainly expect some folks to take issue with that. It's a very backhanded way of declaring other's perceived inferiority in parenting. I'm sure you did not intend it that way, but when it's hard to interpret tone with a written word, it's something to be mindful of.