MaumeeMom
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- Jan 29, 2009
I am from Alabama, and have followed the Holloway story for the beginning. I find it in horribly bad taste to make this kind of comment about Ms. Holloway. That poor girl is NOT dead because her mom didn't hover enough. She is dead because she happened into the path of what has been proven to be a serial killer. I would not have expected the chaperones to stay with them every minute. Ours never did on my high school trips. We were given free run most evenings with a time to be back at the hotel. No matter anyone's opinion here, the fact remains that the teens on that trip were legally adults with the excetion of a few that missed it by a couple of months. I spent 4 weeks in Paris at that age, and no one was holding my hand or following me around 24-7. We had classes in the morining, and were responsible for ourselves the rest of the day and evening. No bed checks ect. We were adults and expected to be responsible for ourselves. We send students from my high school to Europe every year. This year we sent a group to China. They are not expected to stay with a chaperone at all times. They are big enough to handle a few hours of freedom. Yes, bad things can happen, but they happen anywhere, even in YOUR town. We cannot be with our kids at alltimes os we need to teach them how to be aware and street smart. Holding thier hand on every field trip does nothing to further that.
Thank you! Seriously, there is no comparison with this situation and the Natalie Holloway story. At 19 Natalie was an adult. I had lived by myself for a year by the time I turned 19. This is field trip is not even an over night trip! It is a day trip with a ratio of 1 adult to 5 kids. That is better than most overnighters our kids do here.
Children need to learn to handle themselves in situations without their parents. OP's child needs to learn that Mommy can't just write a note and then she will get her way. She needs to learn to have confidence in herself to be by herself for a day. It isn't like she will only be with complete strangers. The child's teacher will be there and her school friends. There are kids that go do programs like sleep away camps were they know absolutely no one and they do fine.
Talk about the trip with your child and outline your expectations such as stay with the group, listen to the teacher, don't wander off.
I've been the child left behind and it is awful, I would never do that to my child.