Thank ya'll so much for your warm and caring responses. What an amazing group of people there are here on the Dis.
My oldest DS says he loved the trip, but honestly he whined and complained the entire time and had several "meltdowns". I really don't think he enjoyed it that much. We thought the Zoloft was keeping the OCD behaviors in check, but he got "stuck" several times as well. We also brought his Nintendo DS to keep him busy in lines, but then he refused to bring it with him into the park and didn't want us to take it along for him either. When we try this again, I'm thinking that I might ask his doctor to increase his meds for the week and see how that goes. We also thought that by going at a slow time of year that with shorter lines, he'd get less frustrated. Not so. Even with Fastpasses, he'd get all worked up. The one thing he really enjoyed was pin trading. I was going to go again the week after Thanksgiving this year, but I'm now rethinking this and think I'll schedule the trip for the end of February just in case we all go together. The week after Thanksgiving would be too busy for him.
If we decide that the oldest and the youngest DS's should stay here and not go to Disney, Dad would take the week off and spend time doing things with them like going to the movies, laser tag, dinners out, indoor mini golf etc. If we do decide to go this route, the following year, 2010, we would try to take them all again when everyone was older, a bit more mature and we've had more time to work on some of the issues.
Honestly, I think some of the issues we're having here are a "me" thing. I'm getting a bit burnt out homeschooling 4 children and dealing with the special needs and trying to keep things as normal as possible for the other two. My oldest is on a competition dance team and we have to take her to practice some distance away several times a week, all 3 boys do karate, we have all the specialists appointments and I just don't get enough down time or enough sleep. I really needed a break at Disney and I just didn't get it. Maybe my expectations were just too high. We really thought that the meds had gotten some of the bigger issues under control, but being in the new environment was just too much for my two with issues.
Sheesh! I'm just rambling on here! Thanks so much for listening and taking the time to respond so thoughtfully.