Well.......it is actually 19 kids and counting now!
Oh, and come on, admit it, you are just jealous!
Dawn
OMGosh!!!!!!!! Must - not - speak - further......
Edited to add this.
Well.......it is actually 19 kids and counting now!
Oh, and come on, admit it, you are just jealous!
Dawn
I have 4 but I would never judge anyone else by my insanity!
There are days I would trade places with you in a split second...That said, my nephew is an only and he stays with us when his parents go on vacation(what's one more? LOL). The chaos and sibling "stuff" make him crazy. When his parents come home he thanks them for him being an only!! Yes, my wonderful tactful Mom told me this. My Sis would never tell me for fear of hurting my feelings.
3 out of my 4 are gone to activities right now and there is PEACE....aahhhhh.
Tell her you can't have another because she had 1 too many, so you had to have 1 less to make up for it...thanks alot!
Or, how about you don't need more than 1 - because the one you have is perfect...isn't she worried that her first born is going to think he's not good enough since they felt they had to have 2 more?
My DH has two much older boys..they are grown and in another state, we have our little Becky - she's from China and is turning 7 next week and is all the kid I need!
Tell your MIL that your DD could end up to be gay, then she could carry on the family name. That should shut her up.
We have 1 child, and I am usually very happy with this decision. We can do lots of stuff with him that we couldn't afford to do if we have another. Me and DH also love spending time alone and are able to do that frequently. While I love my son more than anything else on the planet, I'm not a "supermom" type of mom. I acutally look forward to him becomming an adult and us having a great adult type of relationship! You know, hanging out, drinking beer, and talking politics and stuff.
But why does everyone think it's a bad decision? Recently I was talking with a coworker (3 kids) and she went on and on about how great it was to have them and how I must have more because when I'm 50 I'll regret it and my son will be spoiled (he is by my parents, not by me!) and he'll miss having siblings. Anyway, this totally depressed me and made me doubt our decision. DH is perfectly fine with not having anymore, and he's excited about graduating nursing school next year so we (all of us) can travel the world together.
Seeing the other post about kid #s made me realize that everyone comments on this very personal decision. Like, you're a freak unless you have exactly 2 children, one boy and one girl. Why do they care? Why do they make us doubt our carefully weighed and agonized decision? Is there really a magical # of kids that make life perfect.
Anyway, sorry for the long post, but I've been bummed ever since my discussion with the person because I don't really feel the desire for another one; and I feel guitly for that!
PS: D1sneyf4n This isn't directed at you, I know you were just curious!
However, coming from an only on my dads side, where he was an only, I can testify that it would be so nice to have more family help with my elderly grandma at times. It's sometimes too much work for the two of us, but we make do.
I know what you mean. We have an "only" too. He was born 14 weeks early, weighing 2 lbs, and having many complications. I learned I have an incompetent cervix (TMI...sorry!), so would be at risk for repeating the scenario if I had more children. DH and I decided not to risk it, and felt so blessed with the one child we were given. I will never forget being at a family function, and having my DSIL ask when we were going to have another baby. I told her we were not, and I did not disclose information about my health condition or why we were opting not to add to our wonderful little family. She actually said, and I still cannot believe she said it after 15 years has passed,. I could not believe that hurtful comment. To me, two is a family. There are many couples who can't have kids, or choose not to have kids, and to me they are a special family just like those families who are 3 or 4 or 10 in total."Three is not a family"
That Duggar woman must have a uterus of steel, is all I have to say about THAT!!!
I don't consider my DD (an only) spoiled, but there IS a difference in how they are raised, I think, just by simple necessity. The 3 of us are here in the family room, and DD was just using a helium balloon as a punching bag -- punching it, kicking it, doing cartwheels, somersaults, taunting the dog with her nerf gun -- generally rough housing. Then she sits down and says, "Can someone get me some Crystal Light?". The kid is 9 and more than capable of pouring out a drink. But apparently she has gotten just a little too used to us waiting on her. I just told her (since I'm sitting here reading this thread), you know, Lil, if I had 3 other kids, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have the time or energy to get your drink for you. Why don't you go ahead and get it yourself? I'm too tired, she says. Wow, I think I just saw you do a triple sowcow (sp) in the living room!
My friend who has 4 kids has had Lily overnight a few times, and she cracked up when she told all the kids to get their jammies on and Lily comes over and lifts her arms up, like, okay, put my jammies on me! I haven't purposely made her rely on me so much, any more than my friend intentionally made her kids the type who get drinks without their mom even knowing about their current thirst levels. I know parents of onlies can raise their kids to be self-reliant, and I'm working on that. I just think it's an interesting observation on this topic!