so happy to hear this. we are planning a surprise trip for our kids next month. i'm worried about being judged by their teachers and staff at school. i've been trying to figure out how to tell the school and teachers we will be gone. our school has a policy they won't give work ahead of time. i have one in high school and one in middle school. they are avg students that barely miss any time. i have guilt for taking them out. at the same time in my head i tell myself, they are my kids, i know what they can handle. life is too short and precious, and if this is the only time we can get away, it should be my decision without harsh judgement! i just hope they don't have to pay the price of the school judging.
thank you so much! yes i thought of getting a hold of their teachers, just saying we are traveling seems so much better than "we're going to disney world!". i don't know why. our conferences are a couple of weeks after we go, so i'm sure i'll see what teachers think of my decision. i'm trying to stay in contact about every day things with some teachers, so hopefully they know i am involved and do care about school. i don't know why i care so much (about what they think), i guess i do worry how it will affect my kids overall. you're right they shouldn't take it out on kids who have no say on being gone. thanks so much for the advice! i appreciate it!Not letting them make up work is one thing, judging children or treating them harshly for a decision that the parents make is just wrong. You just have to accept that not everyone will agree with you on this issue and that's OK!
Re figuring out how to tell the school, in the past I have always advised the teacher(s) via an email:
Dear Teacher,
I wanted to let you know that X will be traveling from X-X dates and won't be in class. She will have her laptop with her and access to the school website and will spend some time each day doing schoolwork. If there is any work that X can do in advance or take with her to do while we are away so that she doesn't fall too far behind, please let us know. I understand that this is an inconvenience and we appreciate any flexibility you can allow in submitting missed work. Thank you for your time and attention to this request. My cell phone number is below and I'm available at your convenience if you wish to discuss in more detail.
Sincerely,
X
I'd love to have DD discuss this directly with her teachers but I find it gets a better response when I do it myself.
That's it. I then call the school absentee line the night before we leave and advise them that DD will be out until X date, I do not state a reason. This is a recorded line that never has a live person answering so no one to ask for more info. On her return she has to bring in an absence note to her homeroom teacher. I write that she was traveling with family. It's an unexcused absence and it is up to the teachers whether or not they allow any missed work to be made up. Illness is also unexcused at our schools unless accompanied by a doctor's note. Many teachers will allow them to make up the work but not for full credit. Most will cut them by at least one grade on missed project/test deadlines and give only half credit for missed homework/classwork.
This year, the school parent/teacher conferences are a few weeks before our trip so I may just address it then with the individual teachers in person instead of via email. I'm sure I'll get some grief, especially from one teacher in particular this year, but I'm willing to stand by my decision.
I am a teacher and have been in education for almost 20 years. I am about to take my boys (11 and 7) out of school for a week in November. Most affordable time for me and I would never want to fight crowds and heat in Summer. Anyway, I think there is nothing in the world wrong with them missing school. It is my experience that educators take things WAAYYY too seriously and that life is too short to worry about a week of school vs memories that will last a lifetime. Just my opinion. Lots dont agree with me, I understand that. I just think that, at the end of the day, there will never be a time that I say, "you know... my son is really struggling in life now because of that week of school he missed back in 2015" I did it 2 years ago as well, and no one remembers what was missed in school. Their grades didnt change that semester, and even if they had...big deal. I can tell you we talk about that trip every day and it is a special time that meant more to all of us than anything. Sorry... this is a bit of a sore subject with me...as you can probably imagine, I have had this conversation several times before.... Have fun!
So here's a question- before jr high we never had grades. We had progress reports but nothing like letter grades. If your kid is below the age of letter grades, do you even need to worry about them "making up" assignments? I mean, read the chapter, learn the skills, keep up with class, sure but what's the advantage of stressing out over specific assignments being turned in? Looking back at when my older kid attended school, I cannot think of a single advantage he'd have had "making up" worksheets and assignments after a vacation. Even in jr. high, grades are a way of measuring success, but not an actual important thing in and of themselves. Unless your kid will freak over a B instead of an A (I would have.) is there a point at which you just shrug and go, "eh?"
I am a teacher and have been in education for almost 20 years. I am about to take my boys (11 and 7) out of school for a week in November. Most affordable time for me and I would never want to fight crowds and heat in Summer. Anyway, I think there is nothing in the world wrong with them missing school. It is my experience that educators take things WAAYYY too seriously and that life is too short to worry about a week of school vs memories that will last a lifetime. Just my opinion. Lots dont agree with me, I understand that. I just think that, at the end of the day, there will never be a time that I say, "you know... my son is really struggling in life now because of that week of school he missed back in 2015" I did it 2 years ago as well, and no one remembers what was missed in school. Their grades didnt change that semester, and even if they had...big deal. I can tell you we talk about that trip every day and it is a special time that meant more to all of us than anything. Sorry... this is a bit of a sore subject with me...as you can probably imagine, I have had this conversation several times before.... Have fun!
You know, you bring up a good point. When kids are older they know their own capabilities better, and can understand that they'll have to work harder to catch up when they get home from the trip. Considering that, I almost think it'd be easier to pull out kids who are older (as long as they are willing to do the extra work to catch up). My 1st grader wouldn't fully understand the "consequences" of missing a week of school, and it would be completely on me and my wife to make sure she catches up on missed work while she grumbles about not being able to watch TV because she has double the usual amount of homework to do.I so agree with this. We will be going in Sept '16 and kids will be 9th, 7th & 4th. We've always gone in Sept, but it will have been 4 years, so I was very worried about pulling the 9th grader. I decided to ask her....she said, "Mom, it's a week...I'll be fine and can catch up. I'd much rather go when there are less crowds and then just work harder when I get back for a couple weeks." You are so right - 1 week out of the year is hardly going to effect their education. But, going to Disney....a memory that lasts forever.