Glad he's recovering,
@NC Belle . And please - I can't see where you did anything wrong, unless I missed the part where you're a licensed physician trained in diagnostics of cardiac iossues. Give yourself a break, my friend! Hugs to you, and to hubby!!
I know I was hard on myself, but now I was checking his physical notes from latr April...the primary doctor though his chest soreness was
Costochondritis. This may us doubt our instinct and delay actions to now damage heart tissue. I saw his concern to the doctor and he told her that his dad had stents done several years before FIL's aggressive cancer. So... I am upset that she did not run extra test to validate her opinion. I am now thinking that she may need to be replaced since she did not run certain tests based on chest pain in an overweight male with high risks (sit down jobs, not very active daily in working out, and a big thing in my eyes---Sleep apnea.
So, dh's mom could not stop yesterday due to other people in the car needed to be home. I think that he would not be resting enough if she was here this weekend. He was agitated when she was calling every hour or 2 with asking how we are going to handle the medical bills with and if his job was going still be thee for him. She got upset with me when I told her that he had a physical at the end of April and what the doctor thought his chest discomfort was maybe costcochondritis. She ask dh if I was even try to do the low sodium, low carb, and low fat diet with him. We are getting MIL's nagging that we should live near her so when issues like this happens that she can be us faster and more (I was good and said nothing).
I am expecting today's nag will be church attendance and not having any connections with priests. I know that a couple of the priests will call soon like the one that did the sermon and at the reception prayer/toast plus the one that we nickname MIL's "fifth son". We had 4 priests and a deacon for our wedding and I don't know how that got the okay because my Dad is not Catholic and I did not get confirmation (this still bugs my MIL). Dh and I should make the bets on how many priests will be emailed by MIL. I think FIL had over 50 priests at his funeral (an archbishop, lots of priests with various ranks, and the 2 choirs that FIL took part in his last years. DH forgot that he has Mom listed to be in charge of his funeral plans if things went bad which it will be okay since I am not enough educated in what all the Catholic rites needed to be completed. She did a lot of planning on other family/friend funerals and those were good plus she did give him an expensive Catholic education. We will have to plan ahead and get organized for the just in case. He is in heart failure so things could go sour so fast.
Sorry for the rambling. This is the week of hard work in plans and many office visits and how to handle his job (just few hours short to qualify for FMLA) since he became a contractor back at the beginning of November and no paid leave or medical leave plus a lot of his salary is spent on the medical insurance. So, he is going to miss 2 days of pay so far and who knows how much time he cannot work or be allowed. Somehow, I will need to become the breadwinner ASAP. I shocked the nursing staff by asking if they started a certain drug because I saw a difference in his legs/color So, I must remember a lot medical drug info from college and prior jobs plus my family members that had heart issues.
I must have slowly written this post the past2 hours while doing some chores and it is almost time to see dh. He might be home soon depending on his oxygen dependence. I am not sure how he could handle the steep stairs more than once a day at this point. We might need to find a more heart friendly space. Add that to my list of what to plan for the next x weeks.
We were doing great in being positive in attitudes until we started family know his health status...now...the negatives are coming along with questions. Now, tears coming in (not in front of dh yet). I had to do laundry to make sure that I keep wearing bright and cheery colors. He is starting to realize that a lot of his fun choices are going away.