Many thoughts regarding your 10K report and your most recent update, but not enough time to organize them all! So I'll just list a few:
10K: Your 10K report is really incredible and I love that you and
@roxymama accomplished your respective bucket list items together. I would love to be skilled enough in coaching to really help someone else in a meaningful way. As much as I enjoy coaching cross country, it's really impressive that you are both caring
and knowledgable enough to do what you did for roxy up to and including race day. My most important running goal right now is to cross the 10K finish line with
@mateojr in January of 2019 - because that's what I will remember in the long term. And it's great to see our running community setting those kinds of goals while we're setting goals for our own running! On another note, I was laughing about your efforts to make roxy think that she wasn't keeping pace - she sped up when she heard that, but I would have probably slowed down.
I'm generally a positive person, but I realized I really need to work more on rejecting negative thoughts while racing.
Post-Marathon Update: First, your post reminded me that the marathon takes a toll and patience is necessary. Many times over the past few weeks, I've told my husband that while my breathing feels great and my head is clear, my legs just don't have that same energy during runs. He reminds me that I've run a marathon, a half and then 12 miles over the past three weeks with training runs in between. But then I think that I'd be differently situated if I were a better runner. So I appreciate the reminder that this happens - even to those far better trained than I!
As for the comments you received, boo. So many people have no filter. (Although mateo jr is one of them, but I'll just add that some of that is related to autism and age and he's always well-meaning!) I tend to receive comments regarding running from both sides - some think I run too much and some think I run too little, but many seem to have an opinion! So I take the opinions and use them to reflect on my purpose and goals and make sure I'm doing what works best for me and for my family. I'm glad you've done that too.
Very odd.
It's about knowing your audience and what buttons to push. I had a few other things lined up, but never needed to pull them out of the bag of tricks. I'll save them for next time to keep them as surprises for the next lucky victim in my adventure of pacing. Guess we'll find out sometime how you react to my in-racing coaching, right? 
