I feel like that goes without saying, but that is not what surrogacy itself is about as in the point of surrogacy and the practice of it. Your comment was about what a surrogate's body can go through in the future thus I answered in that vein.
Oh, I think for some, it is all about the money.
You do realize women still die as a result of pregnancy and childbirth, right? A girl from my high school, a healthy professional athlete, died at the age of 26 due to pregnancy complications during her second trimester. A close friend of mine was placed on disability for the last part of her pregnancy because of the immense toll pregnancy had taken on her body. She was in constant pain. There are endless complications that can occur during pregnancy and childbirth that can have lasting impact on one’s physical or mental health. It’s awfully narrow-minded of you to say, “It's a bit over the top to say it affects your body in such a way your body or career can't bounce back” simply because that wasn’t your experience. Although, in the next breath you confess that your body never was the same after pregnancy so it’s a bit of a mixed message. At least you’re only dealing with excess weight — many women struggle with much more serious issues.
“She wants babies but doesn’t wanna go through the work of having babies.”
Oh I know, that’s why it pays well. When you are facing a 6 figure college debt (DPT programs start at around $100,000 without housing), you might need to be creative. I’ve also suggested dancing, she wasn’t sold on that either.
I'm not denying that. I'm saying that's not what it is about as a whole as in why it exists as a whole.
Um, ok, if you say so. No need to sigh, really.
That was because I felt like I wasn't presenting it like I was ignoring that, that's a goes without saying thing. Clearly people do all sorts of things for money, it doesn't make it the intent of it by the virtue of it. Enjoy your day.
Because it’s only okay to use the unpaid labor of your mom, sister, or MIL to help with the baby. If you can afford to pay someone who’s CPR certified, then we’ll look down our noses at you.
Idk. Perhaps it started out that way, I don’t really know for sure, I’d have to research it. But I wouldn’t doubt that if there are different “groups” that work with surrogacy, that some are them are in it more for the money than the altruism. I apologize if I am misunderstanding what you’re saying, but that’s what my sense of it is. Just like people that deal in human trafficking - they couldn’t care less that it’s hurting people, they’re just in it for what they can get out of it. (*And not saying that surrogacy hurts people.)
Lol. Exactly.
I go to Buzzfeed for the fun and crazy quizzes such as:
I got so tired of people asking if I was going to have a second, that my response became: "Are you volunteering to come over and change their diapers?" People shut up after that.
A friend of mine's father committed suicide because improperly treated bipolar disorder. She has really bad bipolar disorder which is still a problem even with medicine and therapy. She had a lot of trouble finding a doctor who would remove her uterus even though it would be unsafe for her to get pregnant. She would have to go off of her medicine during pregnancy. She was also afraid of passing the gene down to a child. She was a good person but would be a bad mother because of her mood swings.
During my first pregnancy, I couldn't work because the pregnancy took such a toll on my body. I puked every day of my pregnancy. My second newborn was so big that my OB told me I needed to get part-time child care so I could heal from my emergency C-section. He was afraid I would injure myself or break open my incision carrying around such a heavy baby. He was 10.4 lbs at birth. Newborn babies were easier than that.
That advice assumes someone can afford a night nurse. If you're nursing then you need to get up at night to either nurse or breastfeed. If you don't you might have a great deal of pain or health issues.
Hyperemesis is horrible. Amazes me that women who have that once ever choose to get pregnant again... but they do.
I guess I view it not identical to, but similar to the selling of organs. There's a reason selling organs isn't allowed. It ends up being very exploitative of the poor. I don't like envisioning a world where this is a widely used practice. I get it. It will only be a tool of the wealthy. And I don't like that either.
Not even so much the "easy" part. Just easier than actually raising them.
You were very fortunate. Many women have difficult and /or dangerous pregnancies.
