A. Mara Ziwadie
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- Apr 20, 2017
It's a fact of life. The girl is pregnant. She still is going on with her life. Tomorrow is another day. What do these people want her to do, wear a scarlet letter on her chest? Geez.
So what's a "public school" in your area? I say that because I've heard the term "public school" in the UK actually means traditional, stuffy private institutions like Eton.
I think she's Australian and my understanding is that many state run schools there DO do uniforms, especially grade schools. Several school districts in the US have been experimenting with that too- mostly urban from what I understand.
Well - I knew she's currently in New Zealand and said she's has Canadian roots. However, I wasn't sure if that might have meant something different there. I think there was a lot of confusion on another topic because of national/regional differences.
Yes 2 of my 3 kids are in school-a public school with a uniform as is sadly standard here
Yeah I've seen that too but uniforms happen at private and public schools here in the U.S. for sure.Oh, I get what you mean. Yeah, I've seen that misunderstanding on the dis. Thought you correlating uniforms with private schools.
RIGHT. Absolutely. That's what I was thinking of. Like it or not, school IS preparing students for the real world. Fair or not, your behavior in your off time is not considered separate from your time at work. At least not for professions like teacher or police officer or military.
It's difficult to argue that dress in 1st grade is reflects on a school. But when we are talking about high schoolers, we are talking about people who are either already in the work force or will very soon be. And if you want to see it from another perspective, mummabear- I don't know how old your kids are but eventually they will be juniors and seniors. They'll be asking for letters of recommendation from their teachers. Kids might not get it, but teachers are not just looking at grades. They're also looking at professionalism. A kid who has dreads and wears baggy jeans or sweats to class everyday is NOT going to get the same reference as a kid who is clean cut, well dressed even if their GPAs are identical. Maybe that's not fair. But it's reality.
Public school here (New Zealand) is a state school. A lot of state schools have uniforms here.So what's a "public school" in your area? I say that because I've heard the term "public school" in the UK actually means traditional, stuffy private institutions like Eton.
It's difficult to argue that dress in 1st grade is reflects on a school. But when we are talking about high schoolers, we are talking about people who are either already in the work force or will very soon be. And if you want to see it from another perspective, mummabear- I don't know how old your kids are but eventually they will be juniors and seniors. They'll be asking for letters of recommendation from their teachers. Kids might not get it, but teachers are not just looking at grades. They're also looking at professionalism. A kid who has dreads and wears baggy jeans or sweats to class everyday is NOT going to get the same reference as a kid who is clean cut, well dressed even if their GPAs are identical. Maybe that's not fair. But it's reality.
Oh Good Lord. At least you made it evident in this post that you're not a teacher. Teachers get to know the kid regardless of what they are wearing and usually aren't so materialistic. I feel bad for your children if they are in a school where all the teachers evaluate on them on is how they are dressed and not their work ethic, contribution, and personality.
It's one thing to have rules about behaviour at school, it's another to try to control kids outside of school.
Dress codes: things that are a safety issue like closed toed shoes sure but banning nose rings or long hair on boys has nothing to do with education
On what do you base this? Are you a teacher? Your post honestly confuses me.
I'm not saying it's the only thing that matters. I'm saying that it's a factor. If it wasn't a factor, there would not be entire books written on how applicants should dress for job interviews. To tell kids that it doesn't matter at all does them a disservice.
Basing it on three things-
Had high school teachers who told us this outright. They didn't write letters of rec for students who violated dress code, because they felt it said something about the kid's respect for the school. They equated school to a job. (For the record, I thought this was BS. I still do.)
Have teacher friends and colleagues who notice this. I mean, it probably doesn't consciously affect their letters of recommendation but it definitely affects their subconscious reaction to the kid. It might be a regional thing. These folks had a largely conservative rural upbringing.
My application to my actual program in college was not letters of rec- it was a recommendation rubric thing. One of the criteria was professional presentation. Tidyness, clean clothing, general appearance.
I'm not saying it's the only thing that matters. I'm saying that it's a factor. If it wasn't a factor, there would not be entire books written on how applicants should dress for job interviews. To tell kids that it doesn't matter at all does them a disservice.
Well - I knew she's currently in New Zealand and said she's has Canadian roots. However, I wasn't sure if that might have meant something different there. I think there was a lot of confusion on another topic because of national/regional differences.
It's the schools right to have rules that they think suits them. If they say no long hair that is their prerogative. If a parent doesn't like it they are not forced to send their child there. The boy/parents that took the school to court were acting as if they were entitled to do what they want. The school has rules. You don't like it, don't go there. It is not like it was a surprise that there were appearances rules. They would have known them when they enrolled. And since it was a Catholic school they had other choices. It wouldn't have been the only school in town.
My kids went to Catholic primary & high schools. So we had uniforms all the way through. Loved them, saved me a fortune in clothes. The kids actually took pride in their school and they all looked great when they were at events etc. But if you don't like uniforms or rules on appearance then there are other options.
Actually it does them a disservice to tell them it matters at 14, it doesn't.To tell kids that it doesn't matter at all does them a disservice.
It depends on the industry. At one job interview I dressed up, which was a dress shirt, tie, and wool slacks. The first thing my first interviewer (who became my long-term manager) did was ask me to take my tie off. The interview uniform in my industry is generally going to be men in a polo shirt and khakis, although it might not even be that critical. Not sure what it is for women. That being said, the clothing choices of people who have interviewed me has varied. I've been interviewed by someone wearing a T-shirt and shorts. Someone wearing a suit might even be seen as trying too hard. Heck - the craziest thing I've seen is someone wearing a tie-die T-shirt, shorts, and with a long Hare Krishna style ponytail. He didn't interview me, but it was at a mass interview event, and I found out that he was an MIT grad.
At the very least, I would think that a tatted up and unusually pierced kid would know that they don't have as great of a relationship with teachers who may judge them for that so wouldn't ask them for the recommendation. So even if it is a more common practice than I think for them to judge, I doubt it gets to color that many recommendations.Right, I agree with you. It absolutely does depend on the industry and you do have to know your industry (and often the company culture) to know what to wear. I've also worked at schools and other companies where the de rigeur dress is casual or hipster. You'd fit in if you had piercings and dreads, you'd look odd if you dressed in your Sunday best. But mainly I'm just arguing that it's better to be neutral. People have strong feelings over things like tats and unusual piercings.
Right but now you're specifying age. When do you tell the kids that it matters? 15? 16, 18? 22?I am a Canadian who lives in NZ
Actually it's not, the courts ruled that their code was unlawful and they were fined.
Furthermore as St Johns receives MOE funding they are required to meet MOE guidelines.
There is nt a lot of choice re:if you don't like the rules don't go to the school, you either go to your zoned state/public school or you go to a paid private school (who all have uniforms) given the amount of schools MOE has listed as at or over capacity most are no longer taking out of zone students.
Your choice becomes suck up rules you don't like or home school.
I may be against uniforms but like our school otherwise.
Actually it does them a disservice to tell them it matters at 14, it doesn't.
It matters getting a job sure, and people will subconsciously judge people for anything g including being overweight-but we aren't putting that in guidelines are we?
At the very least, I would think that a tatted up and unusually pierced kid would know that they don't have as great of a relationship with teachers who may judge them for that so wouldn't ask them for the recommendation. So even if it is a more common practice than I think for them to judge, I doubt it gets to color that many recommendations.
Right, I agree with you. It absolutely does depend on the industry and you do have to know your industry (and often the company culture) to know what to wear. I've also worked at schools and other companies where the de rigeur dress is casual or hipster. You'd fit in if you had piercings and dreads, you'd look odd if you dressed in your Sunday best. But mainly I'm just arguing that it's better to be neutral. People have strong feelings over things like tats and unusual piercings.