Colleen27
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- Mar 31, 2007
I am curious how many adult children living at home are in the same situation. I am also curious if it is because the PARENTS can't let go or if it the adult child expecting it.
It is a mixed bag here. The adult kids all pay their own car insurance/repairs and cell phones but other than paying for the unlimited bandwidth add-on for our internet (because the boys' Xboxes are the only reason we need it), I don't ask them to contribute to household bills. I do the vast majority of the cooking at dinnertime but they often volunteer to get take-out for the whole family or cook a particular meal that they're craving. Breakfasts and lunches are every man for himself because I don't keep tabs on who is going to be home on which days any more, and the boys buy their own Hot Pockets or deli subs or other convenience foods to pack for work. But laundry is my line in the sand - all of my kids start doing their own in high school because it is probably my most-hated chore.
We went from 7 to 4 last year, then back to 6 during the pandemic lockdowns, and now down to 5 again, and I honestly didn't see a big difference in our expenses or my general workload. I'm ready for them to leave for other reasons - the boys, in particular, need their own space and are frustrated by my house rules at times - but it isn't a financial strain to have them here when things are normal because they're working and pulling most of their own weight (It very much was a strain on the budget and my sanity at the peak of the lockdown, when we were covering everything while they waited for unemployment to get approved and everyone was home 24/7).
Or how about the parents that pay for the college. Pay for grad school. Then before they know it, they are paying for a wedding. And now they are approaching their 60s and they still have a mortgage. Now they are babysitting because their grown children want to save money on daycare.
I know more than one of these people that are in this situation.
Some families are just more intertwined that way, though. Unless the parents are feeling taken advantage of, why does it matter if they choose to do more for their kids than you think they should?