First thought: What we're not hearing is WHY she isn't willing to talk about budgets.
- Does she see it as an attempt to control her?
- Is she afraid of failing at it, and she'd rather just not try?
- Does she not understand that this can help her long term?
- Does she not understand that she's been fortunate because you (and her grandparents) budgeted and saved?
- She's working with mortgages, so she must understand that having a nest egg is a positive thing -- doesn't she see how that could help her in her own life?
If you find out WHY she is so resistant, you may have better luck.
Second thought: Stop making it so easy for her. You've taken care of her education -- good for both of you. But now she's an adult in the work force, and it's fair for her to kick in something at home. Not a token amount either. You don't get to be an adult because of your age; you get to be an adult because you take on adult responsibilities. Working is part of that; paying your own way is another part.
Third thought: For what it's worth, my May 2020 graduate had a hard time finding a job too. We agree now that it would've been smarter for her to go straight to grad school, but we didn't understand how long a pandemic job-search without experience would be. She's working in her chosen field now and is off to a good start, but she was awfully low in those months of searching.
- Does she see it as an attempt to control her?
- Is she afraid of failing at it, and she'd rather just not try?
- Does she not understand that this can help her long term?
- Does she not understand that she's been fortunate because you (and her grandparents) budgeted and saved?
- She's working with mortgages, so she must understand that having a nest egg is a positive thing -- doesn't she see how that could help her in her own life?
If you find out WHY she is so resistant, you may have better luck.
Second thought: Stop making it so easy for her. You've taken care of her education -- good for both of you. But now she's an adult in the work force, and it's fair for her to kick in something at home. Not a token amount either. You don't get to be an adult because of your age; you get to be an adult because you take on adult responsibilities. Working is part of that; paying your own way is another part.
Third thought: For what it's worth, my May 2020 graduate had a hard time finding a job too. We agree now that it would've been smarter for her to go straight to grad school, but we didn't understand how long a pandemic job-search without experience would be. She's working in her chosen field now and is off to a good start, but she was awfully low in those months of searching.