Mooch Family

[tonialv3]

Hello, I have a family member he is almost 48, he is a mooch, what is worse when he is mooching he is talking crap on what he is mooching, food, beer, etc. I am having a get together I have to invite him, I have told him before about bringing his own beer, how can I say this so he will get it. I have said before BYOB - bring what you plan on drinking, Did not seem to register. I need some help. Some thoughts

 

[mylilnikita]

Why do u have to invite him because he is family?.
Why not be direct and say if you don’t byob, do not show up

 

[Dan Murphy]

Hello, I have a family member he is almost 48, he is a mooch, what is worse when he is mooching he is talking crap on what he is mooching, food, beer, etc. I am having a get together I have to invite him, I have told him before about bringing his own beer, how can I say this so he will get it. I have said before BYOB - bring what you plan on drinking, Did not seem to register. I need some help. Some thoughts

If he doen't bring his own beer, don't let him in. Let him watch through the window.

And welcome to the dsi, toni, good to see you.

 

[Southernmiss]

I'm having x gathering on y date. I will be serving z. If you prefer something else, feel free to bring it. Otherwise, don't talk cr×p about it.

If you find that you're unable to adhere to this, don't come.

 

[RamblingMad]

Don’t buy beer.

 

[princesscinderella]

I wouldn’t worry about what he eats or drinks at the party as it’s only a small amount of time having to deal with this person. As long as they leave when it’s over and aren’t taking everything leftover home with them. He can be someone else’s problem all the other days.

 

[TippyThomas]

Don't sweat the small stuff.

 

[Disneylover99]

You know he’s a mooch, but you have to invite him.
So buy extra beer, and don’t stress.

 

[RamblingMad]

You know he’s a mooch, but you have to invite him.
So buy extra beer, and don’t stress.

They could buy boxed wine too.

 

[HopperFan]

You know he’s a mooch, but you have to invite him.
So buy extra beer, and don’t stress.

They could buy boxed wine too.

YUP^

Other guests bring their own drink and it's up to them if they want to share with him.

As host, I would do one of two things ...

1) Have a cooler full of iced down bottled water. If Mr. Mooch enters without a cooler of drinks I would say "Hey Moochie, where is your cooler?" If he mumbles "Oh I forgot" ... I would reply "No problem, there is a cooler of bottled water, help yourself." NOTE: I would not have any beer of easily accessible.

2) Have a cooler with store brand beer and "box wine" for those who "forgot". Maybe a cute sign by the cooler ... "Forget BYOB, Hakuna Matata, help yourself" .............. if it is a bad as he says maybe next time he won't forget.

 

[disneychrista]

Don't sweat the small stuff.

You know he’s a mooch, but you have to invite him.
So buy extra beer, and don’t stress.

Either of these will work.

 

[barkley]

have the only available beverages that you provide be non alcoholic-we attend parties like this. if a person wants beer or something else with alcohol they have to bring it themselves. if the host wants some they have their own stash as well otherwise it's just water, iced tea, maybe soda. if the person asking others for it (when you turn them down yourself-which you have to if you want to send the message) will cause you to feel an embarrassment then you have to decide if it's a bigger embarrassment to experience that or be honest to others if they ask why he was not invited to the party (and if it's a family deal and everyone is familiar with it-they will likely think no less of you/privately cheer you on for calling out the mooch's game).

 

[RangerPooh]

Share that it's a pot luck, and he has been asked to bring the beverages.

 

[daisy2013]

Unless he is loading a duffle bag up with leftover beer and food I wouldn't both. If he talks badly about what if provided say something like the grocery store is three blocks away if you want to get something more to your liking and leave it.

 

[Robber Baron]

If I were inviting him I'd provide beer for him.

If I didn't want to provide drinks for him, he wouldn't be there.

 

[Pooh2]

When I host a gathering, I provide the food and drinks so for me, it would not be a mooch for someone who does not bring something.

I consider a mooch to be the relative who brings her tupperware and insists that I fill with dinner and dessert to go.

Not worth making a fuss over and makes for family jokes when she leaves.