MamaBelle4
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- Feb 29, 2016
Sorry but saying yes to a dance should not be teaching anyone that they don’t have the right to say no to anything else. That is my point. Not that she should have to dance with him but that rape culture and being afraid to say no or him understanding that no means no is sooo much deeper than a request to dance. And making it about this does a disservice to our kids.
And I still think that our kids need to learn to be kind to one another.
If you don’t want to dance with someone because the have done or said something inappropriate, fine. But speak up. Don’t let what he did go just because you “shouldn’t have to”. That does a LOT more toward rape culture than saying yes to a dance. We want our girls to have power than by goodness, GIVE them power to speak up loud and clear rather than just “she shouldn’t have to give a reason”.
Otoh, if she wants to say no because he wears glasses or has a wart or isn’t a football player or one of the many silly reasons middle school girls can be cruel about, then that girl or those girls need to learn a bit about being kind. Whether that is dancing or figuring out another way to include that kid in the group.
I'm sorry but you are dead wrong here. It does not do a disservice to our children. It does a disservice to our children to be okay with them not having a say over their bodies. Let's break this down and compare:
No, thank you, I don't want to dance with you. Girl says no.
Authority sweeps in and makes it clear she can't say no. It is SOMEHOW her responsibility to make him feel better and included. Her opinion and comfort does not matter.
You cannot possibly think that teaching a young girl this will not have disastrous consequences. You cannot possibly think that teaching a boy that a girl doesn't have the right to say no will not have consequences.
Thank goodness the mother is advocating for her. This is absolutely disgusting. Heaven forbid my kids' school ever try anything like this.